Listen to our interview with Wise Folks Radio Nanaimo, with host Cathy Holmes.
Permelia Parham and I had a blast!
At home or on the go, click below to listen to the show
Listen to our interview with Wise Folks Radio Nanaimo, with host Cathy Holmes.
Permelia Parham and I had a blast!
At home or on the go, click below to listen to the show
Oh my gosh! There are those days as a caregiver that just make you feel you are on a rocky road.
Doctor’s appointment got cancelled…
The medication was not ready at the pharmacy…
The cleaning lady did not show up at your mom’s house…
And you went to work feeling sick…
As a caregiver you want help to get off that rocky road and feel better. The keyword is “Allow”.
Rather than staying stuck in the ‘what ifs” or the drama and challenge of the present moment, allow yourself to find the soft edge that helps ease your day. This could be a phone call with a friend, a 15- minute break, a walk in the forest, buying flowers to cheer you up, doing some gardening, reading a chapter in your favorite book, bake a pie and dig in right away.
Allow yourself to do something that bring you joy, shifts your mindset and gets your away from the rocky road you were on.
When you look around, you will always find soft edges on the side of a rocky road…
What will you do today that softens your day?
Time is flying, another year of caregiving has gone by and here we are in 2019! Happy New Year!
Do you have any New Year’s resolutions or is your mind spinning with all the ‘must do’s”, ‘can’t have” and “there’s never time for _______ (fill in the blank) anyways”?
Of course, you love your mom and dad and of course, you take care of them… but what about you?
Who cares for you?
I get it, when you care for your parent your life may be turned upside down. You deal with challenges and situations you never believe would happen or become a part of your life… but they do. Nowadays they call it your “new normal”.
Your ‘new normal’ requires that you take good care of yourself in the first place so… have you set your New Year’s goals? If yes, great! And I hope the goals I suggest here are high on your list. If not, why not making them a priority for your own sanity and wellbeing?
Your goal #1: Be Happy.
How? By setting time aside every week to care for yourself.
And I don’t mean a movie night or a dinner with your friends. The reality is that most caregivers can’t really relax (aka shut off their phone) when they are away from their loved one and their outing doesn’t have a lasting impact as it’s tough to be fully present. So what do you do?
You take care of yourself by setting aside at least 2 hours a week and during your time alone you silence your phone and choose what makes you happy: a walk with picnic in the forest, bake your favorite cake, go shopping for a new pair of heels, read a book, go golfing, volunteer at your favorite charity, take a workshop, grab a towel and head for the ocean. Whatever makes you happy, go for it! YOU DECIDE!
Your goal#2: Choose Your Friends Wisely.
Years ago I attended a workshop and the teacher told us to look at our phone contacts and delete every person that has a negative attitude and impact on your life. That definitely caused some uproar but despite it being a challenge (who wants to delete their negative uncle as he is family?!) it turned out that it was empowering and pretty easy to do.
If you want to delete negative people from your life, start with your phone. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, you won’t regret, and it’s one less stressor. So go for it! YOU DECIDE!
Your goal #3: Get support but don’t ask the whole world for help.
Love Facebook? AND want my honest & bold opinion?
Caregiver Support Groups on Facebook are very popular and not all are always your best resource. The personal stories are often heart-breaking and since venting seems to be encouraged in some groups this often leads to more “raw” shares, rants and hurtful experiences in the endless stream of comments. And while you read it, your brain absorbs other people’s problems and sometimes it is hard to find one that offers the support that really helps you feel better, have less stress and (very important!) gives you better tools for caregiving.
And no one warned you for “possible disturbing images” in the group, right?
OMG!! I can’t believe what I see happening online… It makes my stomach turn!
Just think for a moment: when you are 86 yrs old, you have Alzheimer’s and are not in control of your own life any longer (try to picture it…) would you want to be exposed in public groups on Facebook?
You can guess my personal answer: “NO WAY!!”
What can you do instead?
Reach out and ask for support from professionals who know and understand your challenges. They are trained to help you find resources, stay focused and learn how you can manage your caregiving journey while dealing with your so-called ‘new normal’. Without compromising your own health, values and relationships. Think of your family doctor, social worker, Alzheimer’s live support group, service provider, church groups, caregiver coach, local family counselling services, geriatric care manager etc. When you care for a parent or elderly relative, it is important that you acknowledge yourself as a caregiver so you can take the right steps to prevent overwhelm, guilt and burnout.
No one else can do it for you. It is your life, go for it! YOU DECIDE!
Since I assume you love Facebook though, here are 3 of my favourite uplifting, fun and caring resources you can check out: “Working Daughter” and “Happy Healthy Caregiver”.
And one of the pages with the truest caregiver wisdom is Caregiving Support by Denise Brown of Caregiving.com. Denise is my mentor and trainer with more than 25 years of experience with caregivers.
To wrap it up… I am curious: are you ready to commit to these 3 goals?
Yes? Awesome, go for it!
If not, why?
Let me help you! Here’s a previous blog that you may like and the tips are really easy to implement in your life. Visit the blog.
Maybe you’re not sure if your parents are in need of more help? visit this blog by Silver Sherpa. It will help you recognize the warning signs.
Ready to dive deeper into your caregiver journey, discover strategies and tools to be your best self AND be the amazing caregiver who feels confident, valued, and loved? Don’t’ get stressed, get healthy!
I’d love for you to book a 20 min complimentary consult with me. Wanna go for it? YOU DECIDE! JUST CLICK THIS LINK TO GO TO MY CALENDAR.
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Saskia Jennings is a Cert. Caregiving Consultant & Educator who focuses on you, the caregiver. She offers a unique and effective combination of Wholistic Life & Wellness Coaching, 10 yrs of gained experience in the Caregiver Service Industry, and extensive training in caregiving strategies & tools to help busy professionals who care for their parents. We are connected with trusted professional partners who can assist with planning and solutions to help your elderly relatives and your family. Set up time with Saskia to determine your needs.
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Are you in your 50’s/60’s and looking after our parents?
You could be stressed out, overwhelmed and feeling guilty and lost…
Instead, what YOU want is to:
– have a safe space where you can vent, be heard and understood
– be able to cope with confidence
– plan your breaks
– keep your sanity
– find joy in your caregiving journey
Attending to the important needs of your parent can be both rewarding AND exhausting. As a caregiver, you sacrifice your own well-being for that of your loved ones. Plus, it’s difficult to find the moments to reflect on what YOU need and want.
Yet, caring for yourself is just as important and Saskia Jennings is passionate about helping you with that.
As a Certified Caregiving Consultant & Educator with 12 years of gained experience in the Caregiver Service Industry and working with hundreds of families, she understands what you are going through.
Twice a month, meet with other caregivers in our Caregiver Wellness Circle.
Share a story, exchange ideas, learn new tools and strategies and discover resources for your caregiving journey.
On June 5, the workshop includes an introduction to the Emotion Code and its health benefits for you.
Guest speaker: Permelia Parham, Certified Emotion Code Practitioner.
LEARN, LAUGH, MEET LIKE-MINDED PEOPLE AND FEEL LESS ALONE.
GET EDUCATED AND CONNECTED AND GO HOME INSPIRED AND ENERGIZED.
Please give us a call if you want more information or register here right now so you don’t miss out, space is limited as we enjoy working with smaller groups to enhance the support experience.
PRE-REGISTRATION IS REQUIRED, NO WALK-INS.
Call Saskia: 647-528-2037 or Permelia: 250-240-2656.
Or email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Visit the website: http://creatingbeingwell.com
Coffee/tea and handouts are included. Bring your favourite journal!
Book your ticket: click HERE
(Do NO solicit)
It was such an honour to be interviewed live on Wise Folks Radio with host Cathy Holmes of Nanaimo Family Life Association. Take a listen as we share stories and experiences. I also give you lots of caregiving strategies and valuable tips on caring for your parents. Get paper and pen out and tune in!
CLICK HERE FOR THE REPLAY (Then click the play button)
Is caring for your parents causing guilt? Feeling stressed out?
Please book your complimentary 20-minute consult with Saskia and find resolutions.
Connect and follow me on Facebook: http://facebook.com/caregivercoach
PLEASE DO NOT SOLICIT!
Are you caring for a parent or elderly relative?
During caregiving, it’s difficult to find the moments to reflect on what you need and what you want. In this interactive session, Saskia Jennings will share the recently-released “Caregiving Wheels”, tools which help you pinpoint where you are and where you want to be.
With these wheels, you’ll discover what you want to add into your life:
Saskia will also teach “From Impatient to I’m Patient in five seconds flat”, a valuable exercise that helps you to practise patience instantly and improves courage, confidence and strength.
It will be easier to make choices, letting go of what doesn’t help you and you’ll be much more comfortable in saying no to others and YES to YOURSELF!
During our workshop, there will be time for sharing, discussion and support. Handouts will be provided.
TO MAXIMIZE THE LEARNING EXPERIENCE & DISCUSSION, SPACE IS LIMITED TO 8 PEOPLE PER SESSION. Men and women are welcome!
For any questions, please email: Saskia@creatingbeingwell.com (Please note: no soliciting)
For more about Saskia Jennings, Certified Caregiving Consultant, visit http://www.creatingbeingwell.com
CONNECT WITH SASKIA ON FACEBOOK, CLICK: http://facebook.com/caregivercoach
The chance is that you became (or are to become) a family caregiver by need, not by choice. Of course, you help.
Caring for a parent or elderly friend takes patience, insight, knowledge, time and lots of self-love.
What if you felt heard and understood as a caregiver?
What if you have someone at hand who helps you to find relief, resources and even relaxation? (Even though you might think that’s impossible…)
You know, when you expected a child, all your family and friends overloaded you with good wishes, encouraging words and shared tips and wisdom on how to prepare and how life will look like. But when it comes to caring for your parents or an elderly friend you may find out that hardly anyone knows what to do or how to help. Often times you have to figure it all out on your own and having many new and unknown responsibilities and challenges is hard. Agree?
And the results? Possible isolation from friends and community, lots of self-doubt, fear and stressors and struggling to manage health, life, work and caregiving.
Caregiving is an emotional journey and you can’t do it alone.
Wouldn’t it be great to understand how important and impactful this caregiving journey is for yourself, your caree (the person you care for) and your family?
But remember: there’s no “one size fits all” solution to caregiving.
Today I’ll introduce you to this amazing concept:
“The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey”.
The Caregiving Years is separated into six stages, each stage defined by the intensity of the caregiving role.
In the early 90’s this concept was developed by Denise Brown of http://caregiving.com. Denise is my teacher and mentor and she is truly the best resource on the planet when it comes to caregiving.
Don’t they say: “Learn from the best?”. I did and still do! As a matter of fact, I just returned home from the 4-day National Caregiving Conference in Chicago, hosted by Denise Brown.
I’ll give you an overview of the 6 stages of The Caregiving Years so you get a bit more insight on your journey and what to expect.
Then over the next months, I will dive deeper into the concept and share tips and strategies. I’ll map out “Stumbles” (wrong turns, unexpected challenges and unplanned crises) and ways to “steady” these stumbles.
Let’s get started!
Stage I: The Expectant Caregiver
In the future, I may help a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: ASK
Your Challenge: to learn and understand your caree’s needs: health, financial and emotional.
Stage II: The Freshman Caregiver
I am starting to help a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: FIND
Your Challenge: to discover solutions that work.
Stage III: The Entrenched Caregiver
I am helping a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: RECEIVE
Your Challenge: to find the support and strength to continue.
Stage IV: The Pragmatic Caregiver
I am still caring for a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: WELCOME
Your Challenge: to gain a greater understanding of yourself and your caree.
Stage V: The Transitioning Caregiver
My role is changing.
Your Keyword: ALLOW
Your Challenge: to let go of the fear of the end, to understand that reaching the end isn’t about your failure but about the natural cycle of life. Now, you’ll move from the “doing” of caregiving to focus on the “being.” You’re used to doing and going; it’s time to put the priority on being with your caree.
Stage VI: The Godspeed Caregiver
My caregiving role has ended.
Your Keyword: TREASURE
Your Challenge: to integrate your former role as a family caregiver into your new life.
What stage are you in right now? What’s next and how can you prepare?
Is it time for you to reach out for support? Don’t hesitate!
Book a 20 min complimentary caregiving consult with me and let me help you solve a challenge. Just click this link and you can choose your time directly from my calendar: http://calendly.com/creatingbeingwell
I listen. I understand. I help.
With care and love,
Are you a caregiver? Supporting a friend or neighbour who is caring for a parent or elderly friend?
Most of us will be a caregiver for a parent at some point in time.
Local, or long distance. Or maybe you are helping to care for your grandmother.
Maybe you don’t think about caregiving as your parents are healthy and independent (well, that’s what you think because they say so.)
Are you taking your parents to a doctor’s appointment, help with groceries?
Or already fully entrenched in caring for your parents?
How is that affecting your own life and health? Who do you turn to ask for help?
I talk about the topic of caregiving daily, online, offline and with random people who I meet in the coffee shop. It’s on top of almost everyone’s mind…
Are you wondering:
Your caregiving journey can take 8 months, 6 years, 15 years… who knows?!
Did you know there are six stages during your caregiving years?
It really helps to know where you’re at so you can use the best tools and strategies for that stage and be much better prepared.
When I work with clients, I meet them where they are on their caregiving journey.
One of the critical support tools is to listen. I understand what’s going on and offer support.
What if caregiving would be easier?
What if you know what to say and how to prepare when asking for help?
What if you can sleep again at night because you have more peace of mind?
What if you take control back over your own life and caregiving becomes more fulfilling?
What if you learn about resources you never knew existed?
What if you had more time for yourself because you choose so, without feeling guilty?
As a Certified Caregiving Consultant, I support you in 45 min. sessions (phone/online) that are focused on YOU. I help you find answers and solutions to your current challenges.
And the result? You feel relief from your burden and much more confident to face caregiving challenges.
Now, this is a process. It starts where you want it to start. So let’s talk.
I will give you 20 min of my time and you tell me what you would like to achieve or learn. I guarantee you will not be disappointed.
Then we’ll explore if working together would benefit you on your caregiving journey and together we decide if ‘we’re a fit’.
Where I can I share relevant resources and/or practical tips with you. With 12 years of experience under my belt, I’m really not short of strategies and tips.
My aim is to help YOU, the caregiver. Period!
I’d love for you to book your complimentary caregiving consult. Just click this link and you can choose your time directly from my calendar: http://calendly.com/creatingbeingwell
Like my dad would say: “If you don’t try… you don’t know“.
And if you want to learn more about me and my work, don’t hesitate to browse my website: http://creatingbeingwell.com
With love & care,
Follow me on Instagram: @creatingbeingwell_caregivers
Health Talk Outline:
Throughout the caregiving journey, which can last from six months to more than 10 years, the role of family caregivers evolves–and so should the services and the support they receive.
The Caregiving Years describes the path that family caregivers take—from Expectant Caregiver, to Freshman Caregiver, to Entrenched Caregiver, to Pragmatic Caregiver to Transitioning Caregiver to Godspeed Caregiver. Most important, the stages—and their related Stumbles and Steadies—provide a map for family caregivers (and their travel companions, health care professionals) to navigate successfully through the caregiving journey.
A tip sheet will be provided for the participants.
Presented by: Saskia Jennings, Certified Caregiving Consultant & Educator
This Health Talk is part of the Wellnessnews Health Expo, Nainaimo Conference Center.
See a complete list of Health Talks on their website: www.Wellnessnews.ca/HealthExpo
Time of Saskia’s talk: 12.30 pm