Find the soft edges on a rocky road

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Oh my gosh! There are those days as a caregiver that just make you feel you are on a rocky road.

Doctor’s appointment got cancelled…

The medication was not ready at the pharmacy…

The cleaning lady did not show up at your mom’s house…

And you went to work feeling sick…

As a caregiver you want help to get off that rocky road and feel better. The keyword is “Allow”.

Rather than staying stuck in the ‘what ifs” or the drama and challenge of the present moment, allow yourself to find the soft edge that helps ease your day. This could be a phone call with a friend, a 15- minute break, a walk in the forest, buying flowers to cheer you up, doing some gardening, reading a chapter in your favorite book, bake a pie and dig in right away.

Allow yourself to do something that bring you joy, shifts your mindset and gets your away from the rocky road you were on.

When you look around, you will always find soft edges on the side of a rocky road…

What will you do today that softens your day?

Blog: Are your parents asking you for more help? You’ve now entered Stage II of the Caregiving Years

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Today I’ll talk about Stage II of the concept of The Caregiving Years: The Freshman Caregiver.

Does the following resonate with you?
You get requests from your mom or dad and they need your help.
You take them to a doctor’s appointment, pick up some groceries on the way home, answer a phone call at work to hear your mom is not feeling so good.
Your daily schedule gets interrupted. And it may seem just ‘the odd time’, but times add up. From one hour a week to 4 hours a week. To a stay overnight.
Sounds familiar?

Who are you as a Freshman Caregiver?
You’ve begun to help your family member on a regular basis, weekly, perhaps even a few times a week. Your duties range from errand-running and bill-paying to some assistance with hands-on care.

Your keyword: Find
— Find services that help.
— Find a system that keeps you organized.
— Find support that comforts.
— Find ways to enjoy your hobbies and interest (don’t forget about this…).

Your Challenge
To discover solutions that work.

Your Purpose
This is your entry into the caregiving role. This is your time to experiment, to get your feet wet and see what works. This is your opportunity to learn how the healthcare industry works with, or in some cases against, you. Now is the time to shape your caregiving personality:
What duties are you (un)comfortable with?
How well are you and your caree getting along?
What situations would create overwhelming stresses for both of you?

Now it becomes important for you to keep up with your hobbies and interests (you may be able only to keep the ones that you enjoy most), ensuring you have made a habit of spending time on your own, enjoying yourself.

YOUR QUESTIONS: 
Why ME? Why NOW?
NOW WHAT?

If you’d like my help and you are in Canada or USA, I invite you to book a 20 min complimentary caregiving consult with me (by phone) I help you gain insights, I answer some of your questions in our time together, share great resources that fit your situation. We find out if you would need more help and how that would look like.
When you commit, I ask you to show up for your session. You won’t’ regret.I LISTEN. I UNDERSTAND. I HELP.
Let us help you see the forest through the trees. Remember, it is never too early or too late to reach out for support!

With care and love,
Saskia Jennings

Email: saskia@creatingbeingwell.com