Oh my gosh! There are those days as a caregiver that just
make you feel you are on a rocky road.
The medication was not
ready at the pharmacy…
The cleaning lady did
not show up at your mom’s house…
And you went to work
As a caregiver you want help to get off that rocky road and
feel better. The keyword is “Allow”.
Rather than staying stuck in the ‘what ifs” or the drama and
challenge of the present moment, allow yourself
to find the soft edge that helps ease your day. This could be a phone call with
a friend, a 15- minute break, a walk in the forest, buying flowers to cheer you
up, doing some gardening, reading a chapter in your favorite book, bake a pie
and dig in right away.
Allow yourself to
do something that bring you joy, shifts your mindset and gets your away from
the rocky road you were on.
When you look around, you will always find soft edges on the side of a rocky road…
Are you in your 40’s – 60’s and responsible for your parents’ wellbeing and future?
YOU ARE A FAMILY CAREGIVER!
We are proud & blessed to present the first annual Canadian Family Caregiver Symposium in Nanaimo B.C., on beautiful Vancouver Island. The symposium takes place on October 19, 2019, from 9 – 5.30 pm.
Attend the symposium if you:
Are overwhelmed with caregiving
Desperately want help but don’t know where to turn to
Face tough decisions and wonder how to carry on
Mourn the relationship that you once had
Feel you lost control over your own life
Have no plan for your worries.
When we care for a family member, we struggle to share honestly about our experiences. Our symposium is designed to help you, support you, empower and inspire you!
You will discover that you are not alone and have the opportunity to connect and share with other caregivers in your community. You will go home with tools, strategies and information that will make your caregiving journey more effective and fulfilling. All those things that you didn’t know exist…
We feature family caregivers and former
family caregivers as presenters and panellists.
What you’ll learn:
How to cope during your caregiving years
Resources: Why, When, What, How
Ways to ease your emotional rollercoaster
Solutions and ideas to make it better
Begin to build a roadmap to more peace of mind and less stressful days.
To live in the moment.
This is NOT your regular tradeshow! Our one-of-a-kind event is brought to you by Saskia de Quaasteniet (Jennings) of Creating Being Well – Certified Caregiving Consultant & Educator and Permelia Parham of Vibrational Healing, Certified Emotion Code Practitioner. Saskia is a family caregiver since 2005 and has 10+ years of gained professional experience in the Caregiver Service Industry. Currently caring long distance for her mother. Permelia is currently a caregiver for a close family member.
We are pleased to announce that Caregiving Expert Denise M. Brown of Caregiving.com is our Keynote Speaker for the day. She will be speaking on “work & Caregiving”, “Long Distance Caregiving” and “Caregiving has ended, now what?”.
Denise launched CareGiving.com in 1996. CareGiving.com was the first website to add online caregiving support groups, daily caregiving chats and blogs written by family caregivers. Through its blogs posts, podcasts and video chats, CareGiving.com holds one of the largest online libraries of caregiving stories.
Next Avenue named Denise a 2017 Influencer in Aging, one of “50 advocates, researchers, thought leaders, innovators, writers and experts who continue to push beyond traditional boundaries and change our understanding of what it means to grow older.” Denise hosts podcasts which delve into discussions about caregiving issues and organizes a weekly Twitter chat for family caregivers and former family caregivers.
Her insights have been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, US News & World Report, USA Today, SmartMoney.com, Time magazine and Chicago Tribune. She is the author of several books including The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey, Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers and After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again.
Please join us and we take care of you all day long!
HOW TO SAVE $25: Choose to buy 1 ticket at $ 149 (all inclusive) or SAVE when you purchase 2 tickets at $273 (all inclusive, regular $298).
This unique program offers Expert Speakers, our Caregiver Panel, Skills & Support exercises, Resources and more.
Mark your calendar for the whole
day. We welcome you with coffee/tea and
treats, healthy lunch is included and you don’t want to miss our Caregiver
We welcome Mathieu Powell as M.C. for our Symposium. Mathieu is a caregiver for his mother and known as a dedicated Community Leader, who is experienced in helping those who are ageing and in need of support and also has a great understanding of the challenges Canadian Family Caregivers face these days. He is also the host of the Podcast: Island Voices, published on the well-known Vancouver Island-based website Seniors101.ca
Important: If you are in need of help to find someone to
provide respite care so you can join us for the day, please call Saskia to
discuss resources and support options.
Feel free to reach out to us: email@example.com or call us on the following numbers: Saskia: cell 647-528-2037 Permelia: cell 250-240-2656
Our sponsors, your resources, are carefully selected and exclusively invited in order to support you the best way we can.
when you care 24/7, your own life has pretty much come to a standstill and is now filled with twists and turns and so many questions around caregiving. Are you:
totally exhausted and way too overwhelmed?
having sleepless nights?
confused and lost with all the to-do’s?
tired of getting advice from everyone?
missing time for yourself and fun with your friends?
mourning the loss of your caree’s abilities and functions and
often long for the days before caregiving?
You are in Stage 3 of your Caregiving Years: the Entrenched Caregiver. This stage may be the most difficult for both of you. Your involvement with your caree is almost daily if not constant. Your caree may live with you or your involvement means that your day is structured to be available to your caree. Your mood is sometimes upbeat as you’re proud you’ve been able to provide such wonderful care and make decisions that support your caree’s best wishes. Sometimes you feel melancholy–why you?
Your Keyword: Receive — Receive help–from anyone who offers. — Receive breaks from caregiving. — Receive support.
Your Challenge To find the support and strength to continue.
Your Purpose To develop a routine, create a familiar schedule for both yourself and your caree. A routine will help you deal with the overwhelming stresses and responsibilities that wear you out. It will provide comfort for you and your caree.
HERE IS HOW CAREGIVERS WANT US TO HELP When Denise M. Brown, Founder of http://caregiving.com, surveyed Family Caregivers on how we can help as Caregiving Consultants, these were some of the answers:
— An empathetic and caring attitude helps build up confidence between patient, caregiver and professional. — Please forgive me when I’m crabby and want to take it out on you–I’m really trying to do better. –Caregiving needs help from all directions. It is a job one has to learn as you go along. Just like learning to skate or riding a bike you are mostly on your own.
And last but not least: — The first thing you say to a caregiver who is struggling should not be–“put her in a nursing home”.
What is bugging you on your caregiving journey?
With Love & Care,
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Today I’ll talk about Stage II of the concept of The Caregiving Years: The Freshman Caregiver.
Does the following resonate with you?
You get requests from your mom or dad and they need your help.
You take them to a doctor’s appointment, pick up some groceries on the way home, answer a phone call at work to hear your mom is not feeling so good.
Your daily schedule gets interrupted. And it may seem just ‘the odd time’, but times add up. From one hour a week to 4 hours a week. To a stay overnight.
Who are you as a Freshman Caregiver?
You’ve begun to help your family member on a regular basis, weekly, perhaps even a few times a week. Your duties range from errand-running and bill-paying to some assistance with hands-on care.
Your keyword: Find
— Find services that help.
— Find a system that keeps you organized.
— Find support that comforts.
— Find ways to enjoy your hobbies and interest (don’t forget about this…).
To discover solutions that work.
This is your entry into the caregiving role. This is your time to experiment, to get your feet wet and see what works. This is your opportunity to learn how the healthcare industry works with, or in some cases against, you. Now is the time to shape your caregiving personality:
What duties are you (un)comfortable with?
How well are you and your caree getting along?
What situations would create overwhelming stresses for both of you?
Now it becomes important for you to keep up with your hobbies and interests (you may be able only to keep the ones that you enjoy most), ensuring you have made a habit of spending time on your own, enjoying yourself.
Why ME? Why NOW?
If you’d like my help and you are in Canada or USA, I invite you to book a 20 min complimentary caregiving consult with me (by phone) I help you gain insights, I answer some of your questions in our time together, share great resources that fit your situation. We find out if you would need more help and how that would look like.
When you commit, I ask you to show up for your session. You won’t’ regret.I LISTEN. I UNDERSTAND. I HELP. Let us help you see the forest through the trees. Remember, it is never too early or too late to reach out for support!
As promised I’m diving deeper into the concept of The Caregiving Years and start right at the beginning:
Stage I – The Expectant Caregiver.
This is the stage where you tell your friends that your parents are healthy and independent and that you won’t be looking after them for a while. The “all is well” kinda thing.
I hear this a lot and when they allow me to share some insights in person or during a workshop their eyes are opened and they ask me: “Oh, really?!” I never forget the looks on this man’s face when he had that “AHA-moment” at the Health Expo in Nanaimo in September.
One of the things that parents don’t tell you… is that they just don’t tell you!
They keep many things for themselves even though you believe you know them well.
Who are you as Expectant Caregiver?
No matter what they (don’t) tell you, you have a growing concern that, within the near future, they may need more and more of your assistance and time. You’re concerned because of your relative’s age, past and present medical condition, and current living condition.
Your keyword: ASK
— Ask questions of your caree. (The individual receiving your care is your caree.)
— Ask questions of health care professionals.
— Ask questions of lawyers and financial planners.
— Ask questions of your family members who may be involved in the caregiving role.
Don’t be shy and get answers!
To learn and understand your caree’s needs: health, financial and emotional.
You now understand you become a caregiver, and this is your time to prepare. You should
research options, gather information, and provide the opportunity for your caree to share his or her feelings and values. This is also your time to concentrate on taking care of yourself: keeping up with family and friends, enjoying your hobbies and interests, pursuing your career goals.
BUT HOW? WHO? WHEN? WHAT?
Often clients tell me: “OMG Saskia!! Where were you when my caregiving started?”. Well, I am here now.
If you’d like my help, I invite you to book a 20 min complimentary caregiving consult with me. I help you gain insights, I answer your questions in our time together. I LISTEN. I UNDERSTAND. I HELP.
Our Goals with Our Clients
We validate the family caregiver’s experience.
We help the family caregiver stay well.
We encourage the family caregiver because that will give them
We allow the family caregiver’s decisions, which are the
decisions that are best for them at that moment.
We anticipate what could be next knowing we can’t predict the
We do our best to minimize a family caregiver’s regrets.
We ask empowering, thought-provoking questions to help a
family caregiver find a healthy perspective, make an effective
decision, take the first step forward and let go.
We position the family caregiver to transition successfully into
a life after caregiving ends.
We help the family caregiver see the forest through the trees.
Remember, it is never too early or too late to reach out for support!
Book a 20 min complimentary caregiving consult (by phone) with me and let me help you. Just click this link and you can choose your time directly from my calendar: http://calendly.com/creatingbeingwell
The chance is that you became (or are to become) a family caregiver by need, not by choice. Of course, you help.
Do you know what to do?
Are you wondering: “WHY ME”?
Caring for a parent or elderly friend takes patience, insight, knowledge, time and lots of self-love.
What if you felt heard and understood as a caregiver?
What if you have someone at hand who helps you to find relief, resources and even relaxation? (Even though you might think that’s impossible…)
You know, when you expected a child, all your family and friends overloaded you with good wishes, encouraging words and shared tips and wisdom on how to prepare and how life will look like. But when it comes to caring for your parents or an elderly friend you may find out that hardly anyone knows what to do or how to help. Often times you have to figure it all out on your own and having many new and unknown responsibilities and challenges is hard. Agree?
And the results? Possible isolation from friends and community, lots of self-doubt, fear and stressors and struggling to manage health, life, work and caregiving.
Caregiving is an emotional journey and you can’t do it alone.
Wouldn’t it be great to understand how important and impactful this caregiving journey is for yourself, your caree (the person you care for) and your family?
But remember: there’s no “one size fits all” solution to caregiving.
Today I’ll introduce you to this amazing concept: “The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey”.
The Caregiving Years is separated into six stages, each stage defined by the intensity of the caregiving role.
In the early 90’s this concept was developed by Denise Brown of http://caregiving.com. Denise is my teacher and mentor and she is truly the best resource on the planet when it comes to caregiving.
Don’t they say: “Learn from the best?”. I did and still do! As a matter of fact, I just returned home from the 4-day National Caregiving Conference in Chicago, hosted by Denise Brown.
I’ll give you an overview of the 6 stages of The Caregiving Years so you get a bit more insight on your journey and what to expect.
Then over the next months, I will dive deeper into the concept and share tips and strategies. I’ll map out “Stumbles” (wrong turns, unexpected challenges and unplanned crises) and ways to “steady” these stumbles.
Let’s get started!
Stage I: The Expectant Caregiver In the future, I may help a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: ASK
Your Challenge: to learn and understand your caree’s needs: health, financial and emotional.
Stage II: The Freshman Caregiver I am starting to help a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: FIND
Your Challenge: to discover solutions that work.
Stage III: The Entrenched Caregiver I am helping a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: RECEIVE
Your Challenge: to find the support and strength to continue.
Stage IV: The Pragmatic Caregiver I am still caring for a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: WELCOME
Your Challenge: to gain a greater understanding of yourself and your caree.
Stage V: The Transitioning Caregiver My role is changing.
Your Keyword: ALLOW
Your Challenge: to let go of the fear of the end, to understand that reaching the end isn’t about your failure but about the natural cycle of life. Now, you’ll move from the “doing” of caregiving to focus on the “being.” You’re used to doing and going; it’s time to put the priority on being with your caree.
Stage VI: The Godspeed Caregiver My caregiving role has ended.
Your Keyword: TREASURE
Your Challenge: to integrate your former role as a family caregiver into your new life.
What stage are you in right now? What’s next and how can you prepare?
Is it time for you to reach out for support? Don’t hesitate!
Book a 20 min complimentary caregiving consult with me and let me help you solve a challenge. Just click this link and you can choose your time directly from my calendar: http://calendly.com/creatingbeingwell
More and more Canadians are struggling with the emotional and financial demands of caregiving. According to Statistics Canada, there are eight million Canadians currently providing care to dependent family members.
If it takes a village to raise a child, it could take an army to care for an ageing loved one.
We invite you to our unique 2-part Caregiver Series where you will discover tools, strategies and resources to support you on your caregiving journey.
Nov. 19th –The Caregiving Years: Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey
Supporting the caregiver with insights and a roadmap to navigate the emotional side of their caregiving journey.
Nov. 26th – Preparing Financially for a Loss of Independence
Supporting the dependant by offering caregivers the practical information, advice and support to successfully navigate the administrative side of accessing care services and funding opportunities (tax savings, benefit programs and health care planning)
Presented by: Peggy Hoult – Tax, Benefit and Care Navigator & Tax Accountant
Limited space. Room: Boardroom: follow signs.
Pre-registration required. Tickets are non-refundable but transferable.
Please register and choose the ticket that suits you best, click:
Are you a caregiver? Supporting a friend or neighbour who is caring for a parent or elderly friend?
Most of us will be a caregiver for a parent at some point in time.
Local, or long distance. Or maybe you are helping to care for your grandmother.
Maybe you don’t think about caregiving as your parents are healthy and independent (well, that’s what you think because they say so.)
Are you taking your parents to a doctor’s appointment, help with groceries?
Or already fully entrenched in caring for your parents?
How is that affecting your own life and health? Who do you turn to ask for help?
I talk about the topic of caregiving daily, online, offline and with random people who I meet in the coffee shop. It’s on top of almost everyone’s mind…
Are you wondering:
I can help you with answers!
Your caregiving journey can take 8 months, 6 years, 15 years… who knows?!
Did you know there are six stages during your caregiving years?
It really helps to know where you’re at so you can use the best tools and strategies for that stage and be much better prepared.
When I work with clients, I meet them where they are on their caregiving journey.
One of the critical support tools is to listen. I understand what’s going on and offer support.
What if caregiving would be easier?
What if you know what to say and how to prepare when asking for help?
What if you can sleep again at night because you have more peace of mind?
What if you take control back over your own life and caregiving becomes more fulfilling?
What if you learn about resources you never knew existed?
What if you had more time for yourself because you choose so, without feeling guilty?
As a Certified Caregiving Consultant, I support you in 45 min. sessions (phone/online) that are focused on YOU. I help you find answers and solutions to your current challenges.
And the result? You feel relief from your burden and much more confident to face caregiving challenges.
Now, this is a process. It starts where you want it to start. So let’s talk.
I will give you 20 min of my time and you tell me what you would like to achieve or learn. I guarantee you will not be disappointed.
Then we’ll explore if working together would benefit you on your caregiving journey and together we decide if ‘we’re a fit’.
Where I can I share relevant resources and/or practical tips with you. With 12 years of experience under my belt, I’m really not short of strategies and tips.
My aim is to help YOU, the caregiver. Period!
I’d love for you to book your complimentary caregiving consult. Just click this link and you can choose your time directly from my calendar: http://calendly.com/creatingbeingwell
Like my dad would say: “If you don’t try… you don’t know“.
And if you want to learn more about me and my work, don’t hesitate to browse my website: http://creatingbeingwell.com
The Caregiving Years: Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey
Throughout your caregiving journey, which can last from six months to more than 10 years, the role of family caregivers evolves–and so should the services and the support you receive.
The Caregiving Years describes the path that family caregivers take—from Expectant Caregiver, to Freshman Caregiver, to Entrenched Caregiver, to Pragmatic Caregiver to Transitioning Caregiver to Godspeed Caregiver. Most important, the stages—and their related Stumbles and Steadies—provide a map for family caregivers (and their travel companions, health care professionals) to navigate successfully through the caregiving journey.
As a Certified Caregiving Consultant & Educator Saskia Jennings is here to help you take the stress out of that journey. To support you and meet you where you are, at any given moment.
In our consultations the focus is on YOU, the family caregiver, who experiences overwhelm, guilt, major stress, health challenges and let’s face it: THE UNKNOWN.
When working together, you will:
a. Find answers to “why me?”, why now?” and ‘what now?’
b. Receive tools & strategies to help take the stress out of your caregiving journey
c. Discover how you can plan during your caregiving years
d. Learn to Ask and Find, to Receive and Allow, to Welcome and to Treasure
Please allow yourself to schedule a 20 min complimentary consult with Saskia, so you can experience what it would be like to work with her. Click here, leave us a short message and we get back to you within 1-2 business days.
Or send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org with in the subject line: consult.
HOSTED BY VHA HOME HEALTHCARE – PRESENTATION BY SASKIA JENNINGS
What is compassionate communication? How can it help you to make your caregiving journey more effective and fulfilling? How does it help the person you care for?
In this free webinar you will learn the essentials of compassionate communication that are easy to apply in your daily caregiver life and will help you:
to understand your own needs and the needs of your loved ones
how and when to reach out for support
to make better decisions & choices
to find the right resources.
Do you often feel you’re lacking patience?
Saskia will teach you a simple exercise: From “Impatient” to “I’m Patient” in five seconds flat!
This exercise has been proven to be helpful to keep your mind clear, feel calmer and improve confidence and focus. Practising patience will be easy with this exercise and it is highly effective at work, while caregiving or dealing with family dynamics.
Bonus: Saskia will provide a handout for you to download.