The other day I was reading comments on an article about self-care-tips for caregivers and the tone of the comments struck me. Believe it or not, they mostly sounded like this:
• “I know about self-care, but it just doesn’t work for me”
• “Self-care for me is when you send me someone who can take over my caregiving for the next hour… please!”
• “Self-care? Not for me! I have no time since I have to look after a loved one 24/7”
• “When I go for a walk around the block, it feels good for a few minutes and then it’s all about the caregiving again and the good feeling is gone”
• “My mom starts yelling at me every time I want to be by myself”
I felt sad reading this.
Are you a caregiver who is immersed in caring for your loved one and is it taking its toll on you? Does thinking about self-care stresses you out even more, or it makes you upset as you may believe you can’t have it?
STOP! And pause… are you ready to learn something different?
Here are some insights and tips that help you to start thinking differently about self-care.
Self-care is not just about going to see a movie or having a massage.
The “real deal” about self-care is caring for yourself from the inside out, for instance:
- Learning to let go of negative thinking and instead create more positive thoughts
- Understanding your current belief system and being willing to make necessary changes
- Gain awareness about your limiting beliefs that may keep you stuck
- Discover what it is that you want for yourself in life and take action to move forward
- Commit to self-acceptance and self-love
Self-discovery and personal growth are important keys for a happier life, on your terms.
To become stronger, improve confidence and make better decisions. After all, you came on this planet to fulfill your calling.
Taking care of aging parents may be a part of your life, however it doesn’t mean that it has to take over your own life completely.
You have a choice… and it takes courage to be your own advocate.
Carrie Jolie Dale wrote the book: “The 2 choices”.
It’s an easy read with a powerful message. In one of the chapters I came across “The 2 choices mantra”.
After I read it, I jotted it on an index card and I have it visible on my desk. I have the permission to share it with you:
“The 2 Choices Mantra”
Right now, I have 2 choices:
One will get me more in alignment
with things I desire and the other
will move me away from it.
This ability to choose is a gift and
my source of passion, connection and power.
Ultimately it means: when you make a powerful decision you create powerful results. If you make a weak decision (and you know this in your heart) you will get a weak result.
This wonderful quote comes from Carrie Jolie Dale’s book and I resonate with it:
“Choose the things that just feel better”
Choose to keep an eye on yourself and when feelings of overwhelm, exhaustion or resentment creep up,
ask yourself: what 2 choices do I have?
Take a few minutes for yourself to look at your options and then choose powerfully.
When you take care of yourself, become truly honest and confident with yourself, caring for others will be easier.
And it will be more fun to choose deliberately for the movie or massage. You deserve it!