Oh my gosh! There are those days as a caregiver that just
make you feel you are on a rocky road.
The medication was not
ready at the pharmacy…
The cleaning lady did
not show up at your mom’s house…
And you went to work
As a caregiver you want help to get off that rocky road and
feel better. The keyword is “Allow”.
Rather than staying stuck in the ‘what ifs” or the drama and
challenge of the present moment, allow yourself
to find the soft edge that helps ease your day. This could be a phone call with
a friend, a 15- minute break, a walk in the forest, buying flowers to cheer you
up, doing some gardening, reading a chapter in your favorite book, bake a pie
and dig in right away.
Allow yourself to
do something that bring you joy, shifts your mindset and gets your away from
the rocky road you were on.
When you look around, you will always find soft edges on the side of a rocky road…
Are you in your 40’s – 60’s and responsible for your parents’ wellbeing and future?
YOU ARE A FAMILY CAREGIVER!
We are proud & blessed to present the first annual Canadian Family Caregiver Symposium in Nanaimo B.C., on beautiful Vancouver Island. The symposium takes place on October 19, 2019, from 9 – 5.30 pm.
Attend the symposium if you:
Are overwhelmed with caregiving
Desperately want help but don’t know where to turn to
Face tough decisions and wonder how to carry on
Mourn the relationship that you once had
Feel you lost control over your own life
Have no plan for your worries.
When we care for a family member, we struggle to share honestly about our experiences. Our symposium is designed to help you, support you, empower and inspire you!
You will discover that you are not alone and have the opportunity to connect and share with other caregivers in your community. You will go home with tools, strategies and information that will make your caregiving journey more effective and fulfilling. All those things that you didn’t know exist…
We feature family caregivers and former
family caregivers as presenters and panellists.
What you’ll learn:
How to cope during your caregiving years
Resources: Why, When, What, How
Ways to ease your emotional rollercoaster
Solutions and ideas to make it better
Begin to build a roadmap to more peace of mind and less stressful days.
To live in the moment.
This is NOT your regular tradeshow! Our one-of-a-kind event is brought to you by Saskia de Quaasteniet (Jennings) of Creating Being Well – Certified Caregiving Consultant & Educator and Permelia Parham of Vibrational Healing, Certified Emotion Code Practitioner. Saskia is a family caregiver since 2005 and has 10+ years of gained professional experience in the Caregiver Service Industry. Currently caring long distance for her mother. Permelia is currently a caregiver for a close family member.
We are pleased to announce that Caregiving Expert Denise M. Brown of Caregiving.com is our Keynote Speaker for the day. She will be speaking on “work & Caregiving”, “Long Distance Caregiving” and “Caregiving has ended, now what?”.
Denise launched CareGiving.com in 1996. CareGiving.com was the first website to add online caregiving support groups, daily caregiving chats and blogs written by family caregivers. Through its blogs posts, podcasts and video chats, CareGiving.com holds one of the largest online libraries of caregiving stories.
Next Avenue named Denise a 2017 Influencer in Aging, one of “50 advocates, researchers, thought leaders, innovators, writers and experts who continue to push beyond traditional boundaries and change our understanding of what it means to grow older.” Denise hosts podcasts which delve into discussions about caregiving issues and organizes a weekly Twitter chat for family caregivers and former family caregivers.
Her insights have been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, US News & World Report, USA Today, SmartMoney.com, Time magazine and Chicago Tribune. She is the author of several books including The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey, Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers and After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again.
Please join us and we take care of you all day long!
HOW TO SAVE $25: Choose to buy 1 ticket at $ 149 (all inclusive) or SAVE when you purchase 2 tickets at $273 (all inclusive, regular $298).
This unique program offers Expert Speakers, our Caregiver Panel, Skills & Support exercises, Resources and more.
Mark your calendar for the whole
day. We welcome you with coffee/tea and
treats, healthy lunch is included and you don’t want to miss our Caregiver
We welcome Mathieu Powell as M.C. for our Symposium. Mathieu is a caregiver for his mother and known as a dedicated Community Leader, who is experienced in helping those who are ageing and in need of support and also has a great understanding of the challenges Canadian Family Caregivers face these days. He is also the host of the Podcast: Island Voices, published on the well-known Vancouver Island-based website Seniors101.ca
Important: If you are in need of help to find someone to
provide respite care so you can join us for the day, please call Saskia to
discuss resources and support options.
Feel free to reach out to us: email@example.com or call us on the following numbers: Saskia: cell 647-528-2037 Permelia: cell 250-240-2656
Our sponsors, your resources, are carefully selected and exclusively invited in order to support you the best way we can.
when you care 24/7, your own life has pretty much come to a standstill and is now filled with twists and turns and so many questions around caregiving. Are you:
totally exhausted and way too overwhelmed?
having sleepless nights?
confused and lost with all the to-do’s?
tired of getting advice from everyone?
missing time for yourself and fun with your friends?
mourning the loss of your caree’s abilities and functions and
often long for the days before caregiving?
You are in Stage 3 of your Caregiving Years: the Entrenched Caregiver. This stage may be the most difficult for both of you. Your involvement with your caree is almost daily if not constant. Your caree may live with you or your involvement means that your day is structured to be available to your caree. Your mood is sometimes upbeat as you’re proud you’ve been able to provide such wonderful care and make decisions that support your caree’s best wishes. Sometimes you feel melancholy–why you?
Your Keyword: Receive — Receive help–from anyone who offers. — Receive breaks from caregiving. — Receive support.
Your Challenge To find the support and strength to continue.
Your Purpose To develop a routine, create a familiar schedule for both yourself and your caree. A routine will help you deal with the overwhelming stresses and responsibilities that wear you out. It will provide comfort for you and your caree.
HERE IS HOW CAREGIVERS WANT US TO HELP When Denise M. Brown, Founder of http://caregiving.com, surveyed Family Caregivers on how we can help as Caregiving Consultants, these were some of the answers:
— An empathetic and caring attitude helps build up confidence between patient, caregiver and professional. — Please forgive me when I’m crabby and want to take it out on you–I’m really trying to do better. –Caregiving needs help from all directions. It is a job one has to learn as you go along. Just like learning to skate or riding a bike you are mostly on your own.
And last but not least: — The first thing you say to a caregiver who is struggling should not be–“put her in a nursing home”.
What is bugging you on your caregiving journey?
With Love & Care,
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Time is flying, another year of caregiving has gone by and here we are in 2019! Happy New Year!
Do you have any New Year’s resolutions or is your mind spinning with all the ‘must do’s”, ‘can’t have” and “there’s never time for _______ (fill in the blank) anyways”?
Of course, you love your mom and dad and of course, you take care of them… but what about you?
Who cares for you?
I get it, when you care for your parent your life may be turned upside down. You deal with challenges and situations you never believe would happen or become a part of your life… but they do. Nowadays they call it your “new normal”.
Your ‘new normal’ requires that you take good care of yourself in the first place so… have you set your New Year’s goals? If yes, great! And I hope the goals I suggest here are high on your list. If not, why not making them a priority for your own sanity and wellbeing?
Your goal #1: Be Happy.
How? By setting time aside every week to care for yourself.
And I don’t mean a movie night or a dinner with your friends. The reality is that most caregivers can’t really relax (aka shut off their phone) when they are away from their loved one and their outing doesn’t have a lasting impact as it’s tough to be fully present. So what do you do?
You take care of yourself by setting aside at least 2 hours a week and during your time alone you silence your phone and choose what makes you happy: a walk with picnic in the forest, bake your favorite cake, go shopping for a new pair of heels, read a book, go golfing, volunteer at your favorite charity, take a workshop, grab a towel and head for the ocean. Whatever makes you happy, go for it! YOU DECIDE!
Your goal#2: Choose Your Friends Wisely.
Years ago I attended a workshop and the teacher told us to look at our phone contacts and delete every person that has a negative attitude and impact on your life. That definitely caused some uproar but despite it being a challenge (who wants to delete their negative uncle as he is family?!) it turned out that it was empowering and pretty easy to do.
If you want to delete negative people from your life, start with your phone. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, you won’t regret, and it’s one less stressor. So go for it! YOU DECIDE!
Your goal #3: Get support but don’t ask the whole world for help. Love Facebook? AND want my honest & bold opinion?
Caregiver Support Groups on Facebook are very popular and not all are always your best resource. The personal stories are often heart-breaking and since venting seems to be encouraged in some groups this often leads to more “raw” shares, rants and hurtful experiences in the endless stream of comments. And while you read it, your brain absorbs other people’s problems and sometimes it is hard to find one that offers the support that really helps you feel better, have less stress and (very important!) gives you better tools for caregiving.
And no one warned you for “possible disturbing images” in the group, right?
OMG!! I can’t believe what I see happening online… It makes my stomach turn!
Just think for a moment: when you are 86 yrs old, you have Alzheimer’s and are not in control of your own life any longer (try to picture it…) would you want to be exposed in public groups on Facebook?
You can guess my personal answer: “NO WAY!!”
What can you do instead?
Reach out and ask for support from professionals who know and understand your challenges. They are trained to help you find resources, stay focused and learn how you can manage your caregiving journey while dealing with your so-called ‘new normal’. Without compromising your own health, values and relationships. Think of your family doctor, social worker, Alzheimer’s live support group, service provider, church groups, caregiver coach, local family counselling services, geriatric care manager etc. When you care for a parent or elderly relative, it is important that you acknowledge yourself as a caregiver so you can take the right steps to prevent overwhelm, guilt and burnout.
No one else can do it for you. It is your life, go for it! YOU DECIDE!
To wrap it up… I am curious: are you ready to commit to these 3 goals?
Yes? Awesome, go for it!
If not, why?
Let me help you! Here’s a previous blog that you may like and the tips are really easy to implement in your life. Visit the blog.
Maybe you’re not sure if your parents are in need of more help? visit this blog by Silver Sherpa. It will help you recognize the warning signs.
Ready to dive deeper into your caregiver journey, discover strategies and tools to be your best self AND be the amazing caregiver who feels confident, valued, and loved? Don’t’ get stressed, get healthy!
I’d love for you to book a 20 min complimentary consult with me. Wanna go for it? YOU DECIDE! JUST CLICK THIS LINK TO GO TO MY CALENDAR.
Happy 2019! With love
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Saskia Jennings is a Cert. Caregiving Consultant & Educator who focuses on you, the caregiver. She offers a unique and effective combination of Wholistic Life & Wellness Coaching, 10 yrs of gained experience in the Caregiver Service Industry, and extensive training in caregiving strategies & tools to help busy professionals who care for their parents. We are connected with trusted professional partners who can assist with planning and solutions to help your elderly relatives and your family. Set up time with Saskia to determine your needs.