Caring for your parents? How to keep your Sanity!

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Attending to the important needs of your ‘caree’ can be both rewarding AND exhausting.
As a caregiver, you sacrifice your own well-being for that of your loved ones. Plus, it’s difficult to find the moments to reflect on what YOU need and want.

So how do you keep your sanity?

Come to the Women’s Expo FEB 9 in Nanaimo for a day of fun!
Join me at 3.15 pm for a FREE interactive one-hour workshop where you discover the purpose of your caregiving journey and walk away with an awesome tool that you can use every day to have a sound mind and good reasoning.

Host: Saskia Jennings, Founder of CreatingBeingWell.com
Cert. Caregiving Consultant & Coach
Please connect with me on Facebook and “LIKE” my FB page: Caregiver Consulting and Coaching

Check https://www.wellnessnews.ca/womensexpo for Expo Schedule.

Blog: Are your parents asking you for more help? You’ve now entered Stage II of the Caregiving Years

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Today I’ll talk about Stage II of the concept of The Caregiving Years: The Freshman Caregiver.

Does the following resonate with you?
You get requests from your mom or dad and they need your help.
You take them to a doctor’s appointment, pick up some groceries on the way home, answer a phone call at work to hear your mom is not feeling so good.
Your daily schedule gets interrupted. And it may seem just ‘the odd time’, but times add up. From one hour a week to 4 hours a week. To a stay overnight.
Sounds familiar?

Who are you as a Freshman Caregiver?
You’ve begun to help your family member on a regular basis, weekly, perhaps even a few times a week. Your duties range from errand-running and bill-paying to some assistance with hands-on care.

Your keyword: Find
— Find services that help.
— Find a system that keeps you organized.
— Find support that comforts.
— Find ways to enjoy your hobbies and interest (don’t forget about this…).

Your Challenge
To discover solutions that work.

Your Purpose
This is your entry into the caregiving role. This is your time to experiment, to get your feet wet and see what works. This is your opportunity to learn how the healthcare industry works with, or in some cases against, you. Now is the time to shape your caregiving personality:
What duties are you (un)comfortable with?
How well are you and your caree getting along?
What situations would create overwhelming stresses for both of you?

Now it becomes important for you to keep up with your hobbies and interests (you may be able only to keep the ones that you enjoy most), ensuring you have made a habit of spending time on your own, enjoying yourself.

YOUR QUESTIONS: 
Why ME? Why NOW?
NOW WHAT?

If you’d like my help and you are in Canada or USA, I invite you to book a 20 min complimentary caregiving consult with me (by phone) I help you gain insights, I answer some of your questions in our time together, share great resources that fit your situation. We find out if you would need more help and how that would look like.
When you commit, I ask you to show up for your session. You won’t’ regret.I LISTEN. I UNDERSTAND. I HELP.
Let us help you see the forest through the trees. Remember, it is never too early or too late to reach out for support!

With care and love,
Saskia Jennings

Email: saskia@creatingbeingwell.com

Caregiver Wellness Circle – Feb 27 – Parksville, B.C.

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Are you caring for a parent or elderly relative? Feeling stressed, overwhelmed, lonely and guilty?
Attending to the important needs of your ‘caree’ can be both rewarding AND exhausting. As a caregiver, you sacrifice your own well-being for that of your loved ones. Plus, it’s difficult to find the moments to reflect on what YOU need and want.

Yet, caring for yourself is just as important and Saskia Jennings is passionate about helping you with that.
As a Certified Caregiving Consultant & Educator with 12 years of gained experience in the Caregiver Service Industry and working with hundreds of families, she understands what you are going through.

Each month, meet with other caregivers in our Caring for the Caregiver Wellness & Support Circle. Share stories, exchange idea, learn new tools and strategies and discover resources for your caregiving journey.

LEARN, LAUGH, MEET LIKE-MINDED PEOPLE AND FEEL LESS ALONE.

GET CONNECTED AND GO HOME INSPIRED AND ENERGIZED.

Please give us a call if you want more information or register right now so you don’t miss out, space is limited as we enjoy working with smaller groups as to enhance the support experience.

Call Saskia: 647-528-2037 or email: saskia@creatingbeingwell.com
Visit the website: http://creatingbeingwell.com

Coffee/tea and handouts are included. Bring your favourite journal!

Book your ticket: click HERE

The ritual of gathering in circles is universal and powerful and help you feel happier & healthier while connecting with like-minded people.
Join us at Pioneer Wellness Centre! Every month our Circle has a different theme.

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Saskia Jennings on Wise Folks Radio Show on CHLY 101.7 FM – Nanaimo

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It was such an honour to be interviewed live on Wise Folks Radio with host Cathy Holmes of Nanaimo Family Life Association. Take a listen as we share stories and experiences. I also give you lots of caregiving strategies and valuable tips on caring for your parents. Get paper and pen out and tune in!

CLICK HERE FOR THE REPLAY (Then click the play button)

Is caring for your parents causing guilt? Feeling stressed out?
Please book your complimentary 20-minute consult with Saskia and find resolutions.
CLICK HERE

Connect and follow me on Facebook: http://facebook.com/caregivercoach

PLEASE DO NOT SOLICIT!

Workshop Jan16-2019: Wheeling through the caregiving journey

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Are you caring for a parent or elderly relative?
During caregiving, it’s difficult to find the moments to reflect on what you need and what you want. In this interactive session, Saskia Jennings will share the recently-released “Caregiving Wheels”, tools which help you pinpoint where you are and where you want to be.

With these wheels, you’ll discover what you want to add into your life:

  • where you are in your life right now
  • which priorities top your list
  • what support do you need and want, right now…

Saskia will also teach “From Impatient to I’m Patient in five seconds flat”, a valuable exercise that helps you to practise patience instantly and improves courage, confidence and strength.

RESULTS?
It will be easier to make choices, letting go of what doesn’t help you and you’ll be much more comfortable in saying no to others and YES to YOURSELF!

During our workshop, there will be time for sharing, discussion and support. Handouts will be provided.

TO MAXIMIZE THE LEARNING EXPERIENCE & DISCUSSION, SPACE IS LIMITED TO 8 PEOPLE PER SESSION. Men and women are welcome!

To purchase your ticket $ 25 (GST included), click here.

For any questions, please email: Saskia@creatingbeingwell.com (Please note: no soliciting)
For more about Saskia Jennings, Certified Caregiving Consultant, visit http://www.creatingbeingwell.com

CONNECT WITH SASKIA ON FACEBOOK, CLICK: http://facebook.com/caregivercoach

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Not sure if caregiving is on your radar? Get the scoop on Stage 1 of The Caregiving Years!

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As promised I’m diving deeper into the concept of The Caregiving Years and start right at the beginning:

                                                      Stage I – The Expectant Caregiver.

This is the stage where you tell your friends that your parents are healthy and independent and that you won’t be looking after them for a while. The “all is well” kinda thing.
I hear this a lot and when they allow me to share some insights in person or during a workshop their eyes are opened and they ask me: “Oh, really?!” I never forget the looks on this man’s face when he had that “AHA-moment” at the Health Expo in Nanaimo in September.

One of the things that parents don’t tell you… is that they just don’t tell you!
They keep many things for themselves even though you believe you know them well.

Who are you as Expectant Caregiver?
No matter what they (don’t) tell you, you have a growing concern that, within the near future, they may need more and more of your assistance and time. You’re concerned because of your relative’s age, past and present medical condition, and current living condition.

Your keyword: ASK
— Ask questions of your caree. (The individual receiving your care is your caree.)
— Ask questions of health care professionals.
— Ask questions of lawyers and financial planners.
— Ask questions of your family members who may be involved in the caregiving role.

Don’t be shy and get answers!

Your Challenge
To learn and understand your caree’s needs: health, financial and emotional.

Your Purpose
You now understand you become a caregiver, and this is your time to prepare. You should
research options, gather information, and provide the opportunity for your caree to share his or her feelings and values. This is also your time to concentrate on taking care of yourself: keeping up with family and friends, enjoying your hobbies and interests, pursuing your career goals.

BUT HOW? WHO? WHEN? WHAT?

Often clients tell me: “OMG Saskia!! Where were you when my caregiving started?”. Well, I am here now.
If you’d like my help, I invite you to book a 20 min complimentary caregiving consult with me. I help you gain insights, I answer your questions in our time together.  I LISTEN. I UNDERSTAND. I HELP.
Our Goals with Our Clients
 We validate the family caregiver’s experience.
 We help the family caregiver stay well.
 We encourage the family caregiver because that will give them
courage.
 We allow the family caregiver’s decisions, which are the
decisions that are best for them at that moment.
 We anticipate what could be next knowing we can’t predict the
future.
 We do our best to minimize a family caregiver’s regrets.
 We ask empowering, thought-provoking questions to help a
family caregiver find a healthy perspective, make an effective
decision, take the first step forward and let go.
 We position the family caregiver to transition successfully into
a life after caregiving ends.

We help the family caregiver see the forest through the trees.

Remember, it is never too early or too late to reach out for support!
Book a 20 min complimentary caregiving consult (by phone) with me and let me help you.  Just click this link and you can choose your time directly from my calendar: http://calendly.com/creatingbeingwell

My work: I listen. I understand. I help.

With care and love,

Learn something important about caregiving today!

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Dear Caregiver,

The chance is that you became (or are to become) a family caregiver by need, not by choice. Of course, you help.

  • Do you know what to do?
  • Are you wondering: “WHY ME”?

Caring for a parent or elderly friend takes patience, insight, knowledge, time and lots of self-love.

What if you felt heard and understood as a caregiver?
What if you have someone at hand who helps you to find relief, resources and even relaxation? (Even though you might think that’s impossible…)

You know, when you expected a child, all your family and friends overloaded you with good wishes, encouraging words and shared tips and wisdom on how to prepare and how life will look like. But when it comes to caring for your parents or an elderly friend you may find out that hardly anyone knows what to do or how to help. Often times you have to figure it all out on your own and having many new and unknown responsibilities and challenges is hard. Agree?
And the results? Possible isolation from friends and community, lots of self-doubt, fear and stressors and struggling to manage health, life, work and caregiving.

Caregiving is an emotional journey and you can’t do it alone.
Wouldn’t it be great to understand how important and impactful this caregiving journey is for yourself, your caree (the person you care for) and your family?

But remember: there’s no “one size fits all” solution to caregiving.

Today I’ll introduce you to this amazing concept:
“The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey”

The Caregiving Years is separated into six stages, each stage defined by the intensity of the caregiving role.
In the early 90’s this concept was developed by Denise Brown of http://caregiving.com. Denise is my teacher and mentor and she is truly the best resource on the planet when it comes to caregiving.
Don’t they say: “Learn from the best?”. I did and still do! As a matter of fact, I just returned home from the 4-day National Caregiving Conference in Chicago, hosted by Denise Brown.

I’ll give you an overview of the 6 stages of The Caregiving Years so you get a bit more insight on your journey and what to expect.
Then over the next months, I will dive deeper into the concept and share tips and strategies. I’ll map out “Stumbles” (wrong turns, unexpected challenges and unplanned crises)  and ways to “steady” these stumbles.

Let’s get started!

Stage I: The Expectant Caregiver
In the future, I may help a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: ASK
Your Challenge: to learn and understand your caree’s needs: health, financial and emotional.

Stage II: The Freshman Caregiver
I am starting to help a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: FIND
Your Challenge: to discover solutions that work.

Stage III: The Entrenched Caregiver
I am helping a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: RECEIVE
Your Challenge: to find the support and strength to continue.

Stage IV: The Pragmatic Caregiver
I am still caring for a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: WELCOME
Your Challenge: to gain a greater understanding of yourself and your caree.

Stage V: The Transitioning Caregiver
My role is changing.
Your Keyword: ALLOW
Your Challenge: to let go of the fear of the end, to understand that reaching the end isn’t about your failure but about the natural cycle of life. Now, you’ll move from the “doing” of caregiving to focus on the “being.” You’re used to doing and going; it’s time to put the priority on being with your caree.

Stage VI: The Godspeed Caregiver
My caregiving role has ended.
Your Keyword: TREASURE
Your Challenge: to integrate your former role as a family caregiver into your new life.

What stage are you in right now? What’s next and how can you prepare?

Is it time for you to reach out for support? Don’t hesitate!
Book a 20 min complimentary caregiving consult with me and let me help you solve a challenge. Just click this link and you can choose your time directly from my calendar: http://calendly.com/creatingbeingwell

I listen. I understand. I help.

With care and love,

I talk about this all the time, do you?

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Dear friend,

Are you a caregiver? Supporting a friend or neighbour who is caring for a parent or elderly friend?

Most of us will be a caregiver for a parent at some point in time.
Local, or long distance. Or maybe you are helping to care for your grandmother.
Maybe you don’t think about caregiving as your parents are healthy and independent (well, that’s what you think because they say so.)

Are you taking your parents to a doctor’s appointment, help with groceries?
Or already fully entrenched in caring for your parents?
How is that affecting your own life and health? Who do you turn to ask for help?

I talk about the topic of caregiving daily, online, offline and with random people who I meet in the coffee shop. It’s on top of almost everyone’s mind…

Are you wondering:

  • Why me?
  • Why now?
  • Now what?
I can help you with answers!

Your caregiving journey can take 8 months, 6 years, 15 years… who knows?!
Did you know there are six stages during your caregiving years?
It really helps to know where you’re at so you can use the best tools and strategies for that stage and be much better prepared.

When I work with clients, I meet them where they are on their caregiving journey.

I LISTEN… 
One of the critical support tools is to listen. I understand what’s going on and offer support.
What if caregiving would be easier?
What if you know what to say and how to prepare when asking for help?
What if you can sleep again at night because you have more peace of mind?
What if you take control back over your own life and caregiving becomes more fulfilling?
What if you learn about resources you never knew existed?
What if you had more time for yourself because you choose so, without feeling guilty?

As a Certified Caregiving Consultant, I support you in 45 min. sessions (phone/online) that are focused on YOU. I help you find answers and solutions to your current challenges.
And the result? You feel relief from your burden and much more confident to face caregiving challenges.

Now, this is a process. It starts where you want it to start. So let’s talk.
I will give you 20 min of my time and you tell me what you would like to achieve or learn. I guarantee you will not be disappointed.

Then we’ll explore if working together would benefit you on your caregiving journey and together we decide if ‘we’re a fit’.
Where I can I share relevant resources and/or practical tips with you. With 12 years of experience under my belt, I’m really not short of strategies and tips.

My aim is to help YOU, the caregiver. Period!

I’d love for you to book your complimentary caregiving consult. Just click this link and you can choose your time directly from my calendar: http://calendly.com/creatingbeingwell

Like my dad would say: “If you don’t try… you don’t know“.

And if you want to learn more about me and my work, don’t hesitate to browse my website: http://creatingbeingwell.com

With love & care,
          

Email: saskia@creatingbeingwell.com
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Health Talk: The Caregiving Years, 6 Stages to a Meaningful Journey

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Health Talk Outline:

Throughout the caregiving journey, which can last from six months to more than 10 years, the role of family caregivers evolves–and so should the services and the support they receive.

The Caregiving Years describes the path that family caregivers take—from Expectant Caregiver, to Freshman Caregiver, to Entrenched Caregiver, to Pragmatic Caregiver to Transitioning Caregiver to Godspeed Caregiver. Most important, the stages—and their related Stumbles and Steadies—provide a map for family caregivers (and their travel companions, health care professionals) to navigate successfully through the caregiving journey.

A tip sheet will be provided for the participants.

Presented by: Saskia Jennings, Certified Caregiving Consultant & Educator

This Health Talk is part of the Wellnessnews Health Expo, Nainaimo Conference Center.
See a complete list of Health Talks on their website: www.Wellnessnews.ca/HealthExpo

Time of Saskia’s talk: 12.30 pm