Blog: The Top 3 Goals for Caregivers To Live By in 2019

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Time is flying, another year of caregiving has gone by and here we are in 2019! Happy New Year!

Do you have any New Year’s resolutions or is your mind spinning with all the ‘must do’s”, ‘can’t have” and “there’s never time for _______ (fill in the blank) anyways”?

Of course, you love your mom and dad and of course, you take care of them… but what about you?

Who cares for you?

I get it, when you care for your parent your life may be turned upside down. You deal with challenges and situations you never believe would happen or become a part of your life… but they do. Nowadays they call it your “new normal”.

Your ‘new normal’ requires that you take good care of yourself in the first place so…  have you set your New Year’s goals? If yes, great! And I hope the goals I suggest here are high on your list. If not, why not making them a priority for your own sanity and wellbeing?

Your goal #1: Be Happy.
How? By setting time aside every week to care for yourself.
And I don’t mean a movie night or a dinner with your friends. The reality is that most caregivers can’t really relax (aka shut off their phone) when they are away from their loved one and their outing doesn’t have a lasting impact as it’s tough to be fully present. So what do you do?
You take care of yourself by setting aside at least 2 hours a week and during your time alone you silence your phone and choose what makes you happy: a walk with picnic in the forest, bake your favorite cake, go shopping for a new pair of heels, read a book, go golfing, volunteer at your favorite charity, take a workshop, grab a towel and head for the ocean. Whatever makes you happy, go for it!  YOU DECIDE!

Your goal#2: Choose Your Friends Wisely.
Years ago I attended a workshop and the teacher told us to look at our phone contacts and delete every person that has a negative attitude and impact on your life. That definitely caused some uproar but despite it being a challenge (who wants to delete their negative uncle as he is family?!) it turned out that it was empowering and pretty easy to do.
If you want to delete negative people from your life, start with your phone. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, you won’t regret,  and it’s one less stressor. So go for it!  YOU DECIDE!

Your goal #3: Get support but don’t ask the whole world for help.
Love Facebook? AND want my honest & bold opinion?
Caregiver Support Groups on Facebook are very popular and not all are always your best resource. The personal stories are often heart-breaking and since venting seems to be encouraged in some groups this often leads to more “raw” shares, rants and hurtful experiences in the endless stream of comments. And while you read it, your brain absorbs other people’s problems and sometimes it is hard to find one that offers the support that really helps you feel better, have less stress and (very important!) gives you better tools for caregiving.
And no one warned you for “possible disturbing images” in the group, right?
OMG!! I can’t believe what I see happening online… It makes my stomach turn!
Just think for a moment: when you are 86 yrs old, you have Alzheimer’s and are not in control of your own life any longer (try to picture it…) would you want to be exposed in public groups on Facebook?
You can guess my personal answer: NO WAY!!”

What can you do instead?
Reach out and ask for support from professionals who know and understand your challenges. They are trained to help you find resources, stay focused and learn how you can manage your caregiving journey while dealing with your so-called ‘new normal’. Without compromising your own health, values and relationships.  Think of your family doctor, social worker, Alzheimer’s live support group, service provider, church groups, caregiver coach, local family counselling services, geriatric care manager etc. When you care for a parent or elderly relative, it is important that you acknowledge yourself as a caregiver so you can take the right steps to prevent overwhelm, guilt and burnout.
No one else can do it for you. It is your life, go for it! YOU DECIDE!

Since I assume you love Facebook though, here are 3 of my favourite uplifting, fun and caring resources you can check out:  “Working Daughter” and “Happy Healthy Caregiver”.
And one of the pages with the truest caregiver wisdom is Caregiving Support by Denise Brown of Caregiving.com. Denise is my mentor and trainer with more than 25 years of experience with caregivers.

To wrap it up… I am curious: are you ready to commit to these 3 goals?
Yes? Awesome, go for it!
If not, why?
Let me help you! Here’s a previous blog that you may like and the tips are really easy to implement in your life. Visit the blog.

Maybe you’re not sure if your parents are in need of more help? visit this blog by Silver Sherpa. It will help you recognize the warning signs. 

Ready to dive deeper into your caregiver journey, discover strategies and tools to be your best self AND be the amazing caregiver who feels confident, valued, and loved? Don’t’ get stressed, get healthy!
I’d love for you to book a 20 min complimentary consult with me. Wanna go for it? YOU DECIDE! JUST CLICK THIS LINK TO GO TO MY CALENDAR.

Happy 2019! With love

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Saskia Jennings is a Cert. Caregiving Consultant & Educator who focuses on you, the caregiver. She offers a unique and effective combination of Wholistic Life & Wellness Coaching, 10 yrs of gained experience in the Caregiver Service Industry,  and extensive training in caregiving strategies & tools to help busy professionals who care for their parents. We are connected with trusted professional partners who can assist with planning and solutions to help your elderly relatives and your family. Set up time with Saskia to determine your needs.

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Saskia Jennings on Wise Folks Radio Show on CHLY 101.7 FM – Nanaimo

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It was such an honour to be interviewed live on Wise Folks Radio with host Cathy Holmes of Nanaimo Family Life Association. Take a listen as we share stories and experiences. I also give you lots of caregiving strategies and valuable tips on caring for your parents. Get paper and pen out and tune in!

CLICK HERE FOR THE REPLAY (Then click the play button)

Is caring for your parents causing guilt? Feeling stressed out?
Please book your complimentary 20-minute consult with Saskia and find resolutions.
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PLEASE DO NOT SOLICIT!

Learn something important about caregiving today!

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Dear Caregiver,

The chance is that you became (or are to become) a family caregiver by need, not by choice. Of course, you help.

  • Do you know what to do?
  • Are you wondering: “WHY ME”?

Caring for a parent or elderly friend takes patience, insight, knowledge, time and lots of self-love.

What if you felt heard and understood as a caregiver?
What if you have someone at hand who helps you to find relief, resources and even relaxation? (Even though you might think that’s impossible…)

You know, when you expected a child, all your family and friends overloaded you with good wishes, encouraging words and shared tips and wisdom on how to prepare and how life will look like. But when it comes to caring for your parents or an elderly friend you may find out that hardly anyone knows what to do or how to help. Often times you have to figure it all out on your own and having many new and unknown responsibilities and challenges is hard. Agree?
And the results? Possible isolation from friends and community, lots of self-doubt, fear and stressors and struggling to manage health, life, work and caregiving.

Caregiving is an emotional journey and you can’t do it alone.
Wouldn’t it be great to understand how important and impactful this caregiving journey is for yourself, your caree (the person you care for) and your family?

But remember: there’s no “one size fits all” solution to caregiving.

Today I’ll introduce you to this amazing concept:
“The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey”

The Caregiving Years is separated into six stages, each stage defined by the intensity of the caregiving role.
In the early 90’s this concept was developed by Denise Brown of http://caregiving.com. Denise is my teacher and mentor and she is truly the best resource on the planet when it comes to caregiving.
Don’t they say: “Learn from the best?”. I did and still do! As a matter of fact, I just returned home from the 4-day National Caregiving Conference in Chicago, hosted by Denise Brown.

I’ll give you an overview of the 6 stages of The Caregiving Years so you get a bit more insight on your journey and what to expect.
Then over the next months, I will dive deeper into the concept and share tips and strategies. I’ll map out “Stumbles” (wrong turns, unexpected challenges and unplanned crises)  and ways to “steady” these stumbles.

Let’s get started!

Stage I: The Expectant Caregiver
In the future, I may help a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: ASK
Your Challenge: to learn and understand your caree’s needs: health, financial and emotional.

Stage II: The Freshman Caregiver
I am starting to help a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: FIND
Your Challenge: to discover solutions that work.

Stage III: The Entrenched Caregiver
I am helping a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: RECEIVE
Your Challenge: to find the support and strength to continue.

Stage IV: The Pragmatic Caregiver
I am still caring for a family member or friend.
Your Keyword: WELCOME
Your Challenge: to gain a greater understanding of yourself and your caree.

Stage V: The Transitioning Caregiver
My role is changing.
Your Keyword: ALLOW
Your Challenge: to let go of the fear of the end, to understand that reaching the end isn’t about your failure but about the natural cycle of life. Now, you’ll move from the “doing” of caregiving to focus on the “being.” You’re used to doing and going; it’s time to put the priority on being with your caree.

Stage VI: The Godspeed Caregiver
My caregiving role has ended.
Your Keyword: TREASURE
Your Challenge: to integrate your former role as a family caregiver into your new life.

What stage are you in right now? What’s next and how can you prepare?

Is it time for you to reach out for support? Don’t hesitate!
Book a 20 min complimentary caregiving consult with me and let me help you solve a challenge. Just click this link and you can choose your time directly from my calendar: http://calendly.com/creatingbeingwell

I listen. I understand. I help.

With care and love,

Unique 2-part Caregiver Series – Nanaimo, B.C.

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YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

More and more Canadians are struggling with the emotional and financial demands of caregiving. According to Statistics Canada, there are eight million Canadians currently providing care to dependent family members.

If it takes a village to raise a child, it could take an army to care for an ageing loved one.

We invite you to our unique 2-part Caregiver Series where you will discover tools, strategies and resources to support you on your caregiving journey.

Nov. 19th – The Caregiving Years: Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey

Supporting the caregiver with insights and a roadmap to navigate the emotional side of their caregiving journey.

Presented by: Saskia Jennings – Certified Caregiving Consultant & Educator


Nov. 26th – Preparing Financially for a Loss of Independence

Supporting the dependant by offering caregivers the practical information, advice and support to successfully navigate the administrative side of accessing care services and funding opportunities (tax savings, benefit programs and health care planning)

Presented by: Peggy Hoult – Tax, Benefit and Care Navigator & Tax Accountant

Limited space. Room: Boardroom: follow signs.

Pre-registration required. Tickets are non-refundable but transferable.

Please register and choose the ticket that suits you best, click:
https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/unique-2-part-caregiver-series-tickets-52334651351

For information, please connect with Saskia

I talk about this all the time, do you?

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Dear friend,

Are you a caregiver? Supporting a friend or neighbour who is caring for a parent or elderly friend?

Most of us will be a caregiver for a parent at some point in time.
Local, or long distance. Or maybe you are helping to care for your grandmother.
Maybe you don’t think about caregiving as your parents are healthy and independent (well, that’s what you think because they say so.)

Are you taking your parents to a doctor’s appointment, help with groceries?
Or already fully entrenched in caring for your parents?
How is that affecting your own life and health? Who do you turn to ask for help?

I talk about the topic of caregiving daily, online, offline and with random people who I meet in the coffee shop. It’s on top of almost everyone’s mind…

Are you wondering:

  • Why me?
  • Why now?
  • Now what?
I can help you with answers!

Your caregiving journey can take 8 months, 6 years, 15 years… who knows?!
Did you know there are six stages during your caregiving years?
It really helps to know where you’re at so you can use the best tools and strategies for that stage and be much better prepared.

When I work with clients, I meet them where they are on their caregiving journey.

I LISTEN… 
One of the critical support tools is to listen. I understand what’s going on and offer support.
What if caregiving would be easier?
What if you know what to say and how to prepare when asking for help?
What if you can sleep again at night because you have more peace of mind?
What if you take control back over your own life and caregiving becomes more fulfilling?
What if you learn about resources you never knew existed?
What if you had more time for yourself because you choose so, without feeling guilty?

As a Certified Caregiving Consultant, I support you in 45 min. sessions (phone/online) that are focused on YOU. I help you find answers and solutions to your current challenges.
And the result? You feel relief from your burden and much more confident to face caregiving challenges.

Now, this is a process. It starts where you want it to start. So let’s talk.
I will give you 20 min of my time and you tell me what you would like to achieve or learn. I guarantee you will not be disappointed.

Then we’ll explore if working together would benefit you on your caregiving journey and together we decide if ‘we’re a fit’.
Where I can I share relevant resources and/or practical tips with you. With 12 years of experience under my belt, I’m really not short of strategies and tips.

My aim is to help YOU, the caregiver. Period!

I’d love for you to book your complimentary caregiving consult. Just click this link and you can choose your time directly from my calendar: http://calendly.com/creatingbeingwell

Like my dad would say: “If you don’t try… you don’t know“.

And if you want to learn more about me and my work, don’t hesitate to browse my website: http://creatingbeingwell.com

With love & care,
          

Email: saskia@creatingbeingwell.com
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JANUARY 22, 2018 – SASKIA SPEAKS: “HOW TO MAKE YOUR CAREGIVER JOURNEY MORE COMFORTABLE, FULFILLING AND HAPPY”.

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Join this free event hosted by: Barrie Sandwich Generation Group

Saskia Jennings, Caregiver Coach & Consultant will speak on the topic: “How to make your caregiver journey more comfortable, fulfilling and happy”.

As a sandwich generation caregiver your challenges are significant. It’s easy to let deadlines, doctor’s appointments and parenting demands derail what used to be a fulfilling life. Saskia will teach tips & tricks to support you in your role as a caregiver for your parent or elderly loved one.

This event is open to the public, please join us! There is no cost. No pre-registration required but a phone call or text will help us determine the numbers (647.528.2037)

Please bring your notebook and your questions. And yes, your friend is welcome as well!

Date | Time: January 22, 2018 @ 7.45 am

Location: Suite Success at ESS Direct, 411 Huronia Road #5, Barrie, ON

FYI:  Saskia will stay after the meeting to answer more questions as needed.
If you wish to meet with her to talk on a more personal level, please call or email and you can set up a meeting with her for the same day (January 22nd): saskia@creatingbeingwell.com

Are you in Barrie or surrounding area? Check out the Barrie Sandwich Generation Facebook Group.

If you have more questions, please connect with Saskia HERE 

Click here to get to know Saskia Jennings

Here’s a blog to help you start off 2018 on your terms: Visit the blog. 

 

Saskia Jennings, CEO and Founder
Caregiver Coach, Consultant and Strategist
saskia@creatingbeingwell.com
Phone: 647.528.2037 (Canada only plse)

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Saskia Jennings offers a unique, different and effective combination of Wholistic Health & Wellness Coaching, 10 yrs of gained experience in the Caregiver Service Industry,  and proven caregiving strategies & tools to help busy professionals who care for aging parents. We are connected with trusted professional partners who can assist with planning and solutions to help your elderly loved ones and your family. Set up time with Saskia to determine your needs.

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Health & Wellness Classes – North York, ON

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MAKE GREENER & HEALTHIER LIFESTYLE CHOICES!

Easy steps to improve your Home, Health, Habitat & Heart.

Your Wellbeing Is Most Important. Creating Being Well Is My Expertise. Let’s Work Together!

Come join me as I share what essential oils are all about, where they come from and how to use them safely and effectively for YOURSELF, Your FAMILY, Your HOME.
Replace ALL your toxic products with pure natural affordable options and improve your overall wellbeing and joy for life!

 

PLEASE NOTE THAT PRE-REGISTRATION IS REQUIRED.
You can choose your date(s) when you register.

 

Pure Natural Wellness… because we care about YOU!

Do you have any questions or suggestions? Please email saskia@creatingbeingwell.com and leave me a note.
I will get back to you within 2 business days, thank you.

P.S.: I can bring the Health & Wellness Class into your HOME or OFFICE, please connect with me HERE.

A Hug In A Bottle to Uplift and Inspire You

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It’s been one of those days. Your presentation at work didn’t go as hoped, traffic was terrible, your mom’s appointment at the Doctor got postponed, it’s raining, your to-do list is 10 pages long, and someone ate the last of the leftover takeout you were planning on for dinner. All you want to do is crawl into bed with a blanket over your head and call it a day.

We all have days that feel overwhelming, hard, sad, or exhausting. Whether you’re feeling lost, overwhelmed, lonely, or homesick, the pure, gentle aroma of essential oils can help you reset, reflect, and spiritually rejuvenate. Here are a few of our favorite essential oils for when you’re down in the dumps.

Valor Essential OilValor®: A hug for courage

It’s easy to identify the things we want to change about our lives, but it’s much harder to have the courage to actually take action. Fear of obstacles, embarrassment, and failure can leave us in a constant state of analysis paralysis. When you find yourself with a high-stakes day on the horizon, the aroma of Valor essential oil blend can help invite feelings of courage and strength.

Usage tip: Establish a daily practice of reciting self-affirmations in the mirror while inhaling this grounding blend to promote feelings of self-love and confidence.

Release essential oil blendRelease™: A hug for liberation

As we go about our day, we pick up emotional baggage—a hurtful comment, a negative thought, a troubling news article—and after a while it can start to build up and weigh us down. It’s critical that we take time each day to unload and free ourselves. The balancing aroma of Release essential oil blend can help you let go of negativity and lighten your spirit.

Usage tip: During a difficult conversation with a family member or loved one, diffuse this blend to help you stay open-minded and positive.

Present Time essential oilPresent Time™: A hug for gratitude

It’s easy to find yourself focusing so much on the regret of yesterday and the anticipation of tomorrow that you forget about the gift and beauty of today. Diffuse Present Time and practice mindful meditation to help yourself embrace and celebrate the present moment. Let its aroma remind you to slow down and notice life’s little joys—the mesmerizing beauty of raindrops streaming slowly down a windowpane, the sound of birds singing in the morning. There is beauty and wonder all around if you just take the time to look for it.

Usage tip: Diffuse this blend while tackling a mundane chore like laundry or dusting to help you stay mindful and grateful even during less-pleasant tasks.

Do you want to explore the benefits of Young Living’s pure & therapeutic grade essential oils?
Send me an email: saskia@creatingbeingwell.com or click connect and send me a note. I’m happy to chat with you… because I care for you and your family.

Wellness with Essential Oils, for Caregivers & Families

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Essential Oils: Nature’s Living Energy

Discover the incredible versatility of essential oils, and learn how millions use them to supplement a healthy lifestyle.

What are essential oils, and why use them?

Essential oils are natural, aromatic liquids found in plants that have been used for thousands of years in cultures all across the world. Essential oils are a natural way to support a healthy lifestyle, help maintain physical and emotional wellness, clean and purify your home, care for your hair and skin, and promote spirituality.

I use Young Living essential oils and household products for a reason…

When it comes to essential oils – farming, distilling, and sourcing is everything! Young Living has carefully curated farms all over the world, and uses a proprietary Seed to Seal® Process that produces the most authentic essential oils available today.

Unlike other essential oils on the market that rely on chemicals and processing, Young Living oils are never diluted, cut, or adulterated in any way. Using a proprietary, low-temperature distillation process that’s entirely chemical-free, Young Living sets the standard for purity, potency, and authenticity

I personally resonate with Young Living’s mission to create a healthier planet and helping families live a healthier life. This includes you, your children, your parents… and your pets! The founder Gary D. Young carefully crafts his essential oils, oil blends and products after in-depth research and testing in Young Living’s own labs as well as in third party labs.

I couldn’t do without my daily “dose of oils” and save on cleaning products because I only use the “Thieves® Household Cleaner”, my secret weapon for a healthy home! I use it for everything: from windows, to floors, to bathroom. Thieves® has been described as a “miracle blend” of purifying oils with a myriad of uses in and around your home. It’s not just safe, it’s revered for its support of healthy immune function and overall wellness.

Click here to visit my Essential Oils website and learn about a healthy lifestyle and chemical free home.

Would you like to chat with Saskia about how you can apply therapeutic grade essential oils to your specific situation? Please click here to connect with me and leave a message. Or you can email me directly: saskia@creatingbeingwell.com

7 Simple Tips for Effective & Fulfilling Caregiving: Visiting Your Parents

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Every day I hear about caregivers who are struggling.
In my workshops people start smiling and breathing a sigh of relief when I share my practical tips.
People ask me: “Why is life as a caregiver so hard?” 

You love your parent, you care for your parent and NOW WHAT?

Here are 7 practical tips that you can apply when visiting your parent(s), and remember… it always starts with You:

  1. Enter the house with a smile:
    Take a couple of deep breaths before you go in for your visit, so you slow down and focus on a pleasant visit, a cup of tea together and the tasks at hand. Leave behind what happened earlier in the day, feel happy and smile.
  2. Connect with your parent:
    Sit down for at least a few minutes before you start doing any tasks.
    Ask how their day was, and take the time to listen. The best way for a nice conversation? Ask ONE open question and let them chat away. Don’t interrupt in any way.Put your hand over his/her: gentle touch works magic and make sure you smile. If that is a challenge, think how much you love that person. Making a connection and being present makes you both feel good.
    Suggestion: if the TV is on, suggest to turn it off for a while or have the volume down.
  3. Talk slowly when you talk to your parent:
    Our lives are often so busy and we tend to talk fast, way too fast for seniors.
    No multitasking when you talk: do not put groceries away and talk to them while you have your back turned to them or are in another room.
  4. Let your mom or dad know what you’re doing:
    Tell them what tasks you will be doing during your visit. Don’t rush through the house.
    Slowing down is a skill you may and for sure will have to develop; you will notice that it has a positive effect on your loved ones and on yourself.
  5. Have your eyes and ears open for risks & “the unusual”:
    Always keep your eyes open during your visit. Things can change in an instant and seniors are at risk for falls. Is there anything that gets in their way when they walk through the house? Are there any small rugs to trip over? Is the phone within reach? Are there any spills on the kitchen floor? Do you smell something different?
    Be aware of the unusual: a burner on the stove left on, a tap running, an unlocked patio door, the phone off the hook, food left on the counter for hours, a broken lightbulb etc..
  6. Keep a journal at hand:
    A notebook comes in handy. Keep it in your parent’s house so all family members can document their findings and experience about anything you want to remember and anything that is unusual (see #5)
    Make sure that everyone involved knows who is responsible for follow-up. Think about it and make a decision.
  7. How long is your visit?
    It’s helpful when you announce how long your visit will be. Give a reminder 10 minutes before you leave. Sit down for the final 5 minutes and connect (see #2). Understand the importance for them… and for YOU!

And don’t forget: feel good about your visit!
After you leave the house and you’re back in your car, take a moment to pat yourself on the back and feel good about your visit. Share your experience with your family members, friends and update them with facts and fun stuff, via phone, a letter or an email. Be aware that social media is not necessarily the place to post publicly all about your loved ones. Consider creating a private or secret Facebook-Group-Page that is only for family members and close friends, so it is safer to share any updates.

What’s next?
As you know, you can ask me anything. When the caregiving journey gets too overwhelming and you keep having thoughts about “my life and my health sucks…”  or “I am not sure if I’m doing it right…” , then connect with Saskia and book yourself a One-Off Emergency Care coaching session. You’ll be so glad you did!