Blog: The Top 3 Goals for Caregivers To Live By in 2019

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Time is flying, another year of caregiving has gone by and here we are in 2019! Happy New Year!

Do you have any New Year’s resolutions or is your mind spinning with all the ‘must do’s”, ‘can’t have” and “there’s never time for _______ (fill in the blank) anyways”?

Of course, you love your mom and dad and of course, you take care of them… but what about you?

Who cares for you?

I get it, when you care for your parent your life may be turned upside down. You deal with challenges and situations you never believe would happen or become a part of your life… but they do. Nowadays they call it your “new normal”.

Your ‘new normal’ requires that you take good care of yourself in the first place so…  have you set your New Year’s goals? If yes, great! And I hope the goals I suggest here are high on your list. If not, why not making them a priority for your own sanity and wellbeing?

Your goal #1: Be Happy.
How? By setting time aside every week to care for yourself.
And I don’t mean a movie night or a dinner with your friends. The reality is that most caregivers can’t really relax (aka shut off their phone) when they are away from their loved one and their outing doesn’t have a lasting impact as it’s tough to be fully present. So what do you do?
You take care of yourself by setting aside at least 2 hours a week and during your time alone you silence your phone and choose what makes you happy: a walk with picnic in the forest, bake your favorite cake, go shopping for a new pair of heels, read a book, go golfing, volunteer at your favorite charity, take a workshop, grab a towel and head for the ocean. Whatever makes you happy, go for it!  YOU DECIDE!

Your goal#2: Choose Your Friends Wisely.
Years ago I attended a workshop and the teacher told us to look at our phone contacts and delete every person that has a negative attitude and impact on your life. That definitely caused some uproar but despite it being a challenge (who wants to delete their negative uncle as he is family?!) it turned out that it was empowering and pretty easy to do.
If you want to delete negative people from your life, start with your phone. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, you won’t regret,  and it’s one less stressor. So go for it!  YOU DECIDE!

Your goal #3: Get support but don’t ask the whole world for help.
Love Facebook? AND want my honest & bold opinion?
Caregiver Support Groups on Facebook are very popular and not all are always your best resource. The personal stories are often heart-breaking and since venting seems to be encouraged in some groups this often leads to more “raw” shares, rants and hurtful experiences in the endless stream of comments. And while you read it, your brain absorbs other people’s problems and sometimes it is hard to find one that offers the support that really helps you feel better, have less stress and (very important!) gives you better tools for caregiving.
And no one warned you for “possible disturbing images” in the group, right?
OMG!! I can’t believe what I see happening online… It makes my stomach turn!
Just think for a moment: when you are 86 yrs old, you have Alzheimer’s and are not in control of your own life any longer (try to picture it…) would you want to be exposed in public groups on Facebook?
You can guess my personal answer: NO WAY!!”

What can you do instead?
Reach out and ask for support from professionals who know and understand your challenges. They are trained to help you find resources, stay focused and learn how you can manage your caregiving journey while dealing with your so-called ‘new normal’. Without compromising your own health, values and relationships.  Think of your family doctor, social worker, Alzheimer’s live support group, service provider, church groups, caregiver coach, local family counselling services, geriatric care manager etc. When you care for a parent or elderly relative, it is important that you acknowledge yourself as a caregiver so you can take the right steps to prevent overwhelm, guilt and burnout.
No one else can do it for you. It is your life, go for it! YOU DECIDE!

Since I assume you love Facebook though, here are 3 of my favourite uplifting, fun and caring resources you can check out:  “Working Daughter” and “Happy Healthy Caregiver”.
And one of the pages with the truest caregiver wisdom is Caregiving Support by Denise Brown of Caregiving.com. Denise is my mentor and trainer with more than 25 years of experience with caregivers.

To wrap it up… I am curious: are you ready to commit to these 3 goals?
Yes? Awesome, go for it!
If not, why?
Let me help you! Here’s a previous blog that you may like and the tips are really easy to implement in your life. Visit the blog.

Maybe you’re not sure if your parents are in need of more help? visit this blog by Silver Sherpa. It will help you recognize the warning signs. 

Ready to dive deeper into your caregiver journey, discover strategies and tools to be your best self AND be the amazing caregiver who feels confident, valued, and loved? Don’t’ get stressed, get healthy!
I’d love for you to book a 20 min complimentary consult with me. Wanna go for it? YOU DECIDE! JUST CLICK THIS LINK TO GO TO MY CALENDAR.

Happy 2019! With love

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Saskia Jennings is a Cert. Caregiving Consultant & Educator who focuses on you, the caregiver. She offers a unique and effective combination of Wholistic Life & Wellness Coaching, 10 yrs of gained experience in the Caregiver Service Industry,  and extensive training in caregiving strategies & tools to help busy professionals who care for their parents. We are connected with trusted professional partners who can assist with planning and solutions to help your elderly relatives and your family. Set up time with Saskia to determine your needs.

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Blog: Are your parents asking you for more help? You’ve now entered Stage II of the Caregiving Years

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Today I’ll talk about Stage II of the concept of The Caregiving Years: The Freshman Caregiver.

Does the following resonate with you?
You get requests from your mom or dad and they need your help.
You take them to a doctor’s appointment, pick up some groceries on the way home, answer a phone call at work to hear your mom is not feeling so good.
Your daily schedule gets interrupted. And it may seem just ‘the odd time’, but times add up. From one hour a week to 4 hours a week. To a stay overnight.
Sounds familiar?

Who are you as a Freshman Caregiver?
You’ve begun to help your family member on a regular basis, weekly, perhaps even a few times a week. Your duties range from errand-running and bill-paying to some assistance with hands-on care.

Your keyword: Find
— Find services that help.
— Find a system that keeps you organized.
— Find support that comforts.
— Find ways to enjoy your hobbies and interest (don’t forget about this…).

Your Challenge
To discover solutions that work.

Your Purpose
This is your entry into the caregiving role. This is your time to experiment, to get your feet wet and see what works. This is your opportunity to learn how the healthcare industry works with, or in some cases against, you. Now is the time to shape your caregiving personality:
What duties are you (un)comfortable with?
How well are you and your caree getting along?
What situations would create overwhelming stresses for both of you?

Now it becomes important for you to keep up with your hobbies and interests (you may be able only to keep the ones that you enjoy most), ensuring you have made a habit of spending time on your own, enjoying yourself.

YOUR QUESTIONS: 
Why ME? Why NOW?
NOW WHAT?

If you’d like my help and you are in Canada or USA, I invite you to book a 20 min complimentary caregiving consult with me (by phone) I help you gain insights, I answer some of your questions in our time together, share great resources that fit your situation. We find out if you would need more help and how that would look like.
When you commit, I ask you to show up for your session. You won’t’ regret.I LISTEN. I UNDERSTAND. I HELP.
Let us help you see the forest through the trees. Remember, it is never too early or too late to reach out for support!

With care and love,
Saskia Jennings

Email: saskia@creatingbeingwell.com

Caregiver Wellness Circle

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Are you caring for a parent or elderly relative? Feeling stressed, overwhelmed, lonely and guilty?
Attending to the important needs of your ‘caree’ can be both rewarding AND exhausting. As a caregiver, you sacrifice your own well-being for that of your loved ones. Plus, it’s difficult to find the moments to reflect on what YOU need and want.

Yet, caring for yourself is just as important and Saskia Jennings is passionate about helping you with that.
As a Certified Caregiving Consultant & Educator with 12 years of gained experience in the Caregiver Service Industry and working with hundreds of families, she understands what you are going through.

Each month, meet with other caregivers in our Caring for the Caregiver Wellness & Support Circle. Share stories, exchange idea, learn new tools and strategies and discover resources for your caregiving journey.

LEARN, LAUGH, MEET LIKE-MINDED PEOPLE AND FEEL LESS ALONE.

GET CONNECTED AND GO HOME INSPIRED AND ENERGIZED.

Please give us a call if you want more information or register right now so you don’t miss out, space is limited as we enjoy working with smaller groups as to enhance the support experience.

Call Saskia: 647-528-2037 or email: saskia@creatingbeingwell.com
Visit the website: http://creatingbeingwell.com

Coffee/tea and handouts are included. Bring your favourite journal!

Book your ticket: click HERE

The ritual of gathering in circles is universal and powerful and help you feel happier & healthier. Join us at Pioneer Wellness Centre! Every month our Circle has a different theme.

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Saskia Jennings on Wise Folks Radio Show on CHLY 101.7 FM – Nanaimo

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It was such an honour to be interviewed live on Wise Folks Radio with host Cathy Holmes of Nanaimo Family Life Association. Take a listen as we share stories and experiences. I also give you lots of caregiving strategies and valuable tips on caring for your parents. Get paper and pen out and tune in!

CLICK HERE FOR THE REPLAY (Then click the play button)

Is caring for your parents causing guilt? Feeling stressed out?
Please book your complimentary 20-minute consult with Saskia and find resolutions.
CLICK HERE

Connect and follow me on Facebook: http://facebook.com/caregivercoach

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Workshop Jan16-2019: Wheeling through the caregiving journey

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Are you caring for a parent or elderly relative?
During caregiving, it’s difficult to find the moments to reflect on what you need and what you want. In this interactive session, Saskia Jennings will share the recently-released “Caregiving Wheels”, tools which help you pinpoint where you are and where you want to be.

With these wheels, you’ll discover what you want to add into your life:

  • where you are in your life right now
  • which priorities top your list
  • what support do you need and want, right now…

Saskia will also teach “From Impatient to I’m Patient in five seconds flat”, a valuable exercise that helps you to practise patience instantly and improves courage, confidence and strength.

RESULTS?
It will be easier to make choices, letting go of what doesn’t help you and you’ll be much more comfortable in saying no to others and YES to YOURSELF!

During our workshop, there will be time for sharing, discussion and support. Handouts will be provided.

TO MAXIMIZE THE LEARNING EXPERIENCE & DISCUSSION, SPACE IS LIMITED TO 8 PEOPLE PER SESSION. Men and women are welcome!

To purchase your ticket $ 25 (GST included), click here.

For any questions, please email: Saskia@creatingbeingwell.com (Please note: no soliciting)
For more about Saskia Jennings, Certified Caregiving Consultant, visit http://www.creatingbeingwell.com

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