The Caregiving Years: Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey
Throughout your caregiving journey, which can last from six months to more than 10 years, the role of family caregivers evolves–and so should the services and the support you receive.
The Caregiving Years describes the path that family caregivers take—from Expectant Caregiver, to Freshman Caregiver, to Entrenched Caregiver, to Pragmatic Caregiver to Transitioning Caregiver to Godspeed Caregiver. Most important, the stages—and their related Stumbles and Steadies—provide a map for family caregivers (and their travel companions, health care professionals) to navigate successfully through the caregiving journey.
As a Certified Caregiving Consultant & Educator Saskia Jennings is here to help you take the stress out of that journey. To support you and meet you where you are, at any given moment.
In our consultations the focus is on YOU, the family caregiver, who experiences overwhelm, guilt, major stress, health challenges and let’s face it: THE UNKNOWN.
When working together, you will:
a. Find answers to “why me?”, why now?” and ‘what now?’
b. Receive tools & strategies to help take the stress out of your caregiving journey
c. Discover how you can plan during your caregiving years
d. Learn to Ask and Find, to Receive and Allow, to Welcome and to Treasure
Please allow yourself to schedule a 20 min complimentary consult with Saskia, so you can experience what it would be like to work with her. Click here, leave us a short message and we get back to you within 1-2 business days.
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You’re the Caregiver. You’re juggling work deadlines, looking after kids, shopping for your parents and picking up their meds, dinner schedules (“another take-out?”), housework (“Can I get a maid please?”)… and the “to-do” list doesn’t stop there. While you’re managing a million different things, your body is reacting to the pressures and stresses you’re encountering every day. Sometimes you even stress about how stressed you are because you know the negative impact stress can have on the body!
You know all of this, but there’s simply no time to slow down.
Thankfully, there are natural home remedies for on-the-go stress relief that may help you find a greater measure of calm and relaxation when you’re short on time. And I see great results with my clients as they experience the power of these essential oils.
Wherever life takes the day, your purse is a staple you keep close. From stress balls for when your stress buttons are being pushed, to Stress Away essential oil blend, which can also provide simple and fast stress relief. Inhale straight from the bottle when you need your “fix” or apply topically. I’ll teach you safe ways to use the oils!
Take a moment to check in with your body and identify how and where it’s reacting to stress. Are you feeling tense in your stomach or a heaviness in your chest? Local application using a carrier oil is one of the quickest and simplest ways to start feeling the stress-reducing effects of essential oils like Orange and Cedarwood.
Bonus: you’ll love the way the uplifting citrus aroma of Orange mixes with the warm, woody smell of Cedarwood.
Tip: Since you never know when feelings of stress may strike, place this mixture in a roll-on bottle so you can take it with you.
Where do you get your pure & authentic essential oils? Click here to learn more, I am happy to help you!
Last but not least: Talking to someone who understand your challenges as a caregiver is a great way to start making changes for yourself and get out of the “haunted-by-stress-hamsterwheel”. Click here to leave me a message and I’ll get in touch with you, you won’t regret.
Got a stubborn stain that just won’t come out? DIY your own stain remover stick that’s supercharged with Thieves® Laundry Soap and Lemon essential oil and free from the harsh chemicals you don’t want around your family. You’ll love the citrus-spice smell as you gently remove stains.
How to make it: Ingredients
Want to take these DIY stain removers to the next level? Print these customized deodorant container label and lip balm container label, cut them out, and apply them to your newly created DIY stain remover!
By the way: Thieves® Laundry Soap is THE BEST Laundry Soap I ever used in my entire life! Seriously! My clothes are so soft after washing. And when I throw my laundry into the dryer, with NO toxic dryer sheets, it comes out NON-STATIC!
Don’t be fooled by the price, as each bottle of the Laundry Soap is good for 62 loads. In my case… it last me just under a year (happy dance!).
There’s a great little video on how to make the Stain Remover:
I’m sure you want to know exactly how you can purchase your essentials so you can create this for yourself, and for a friend… Click here to connect with me or find me on Facebook: http://facebook.com/caregiversbeingwell.
You can ask me all you would like to know about using essential oils safely for yourself, your family and your home.
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Every day I hear about caregivers who are struggling.
In my workshops people start smiling and breathing a sigh of relief when I share my practical tips.
People ask me: “Why is life as a caregiver so hard?”
You love your parent, you care for your parent and NOW WHAT?
Here are 7 practical tips that you can apply when visiting your parent(s), and remember… it always starts with You:
And don’t forget: feel good about your visit!
After you leave the house and you’re back in your car, take a moment to pat yourself on the back and feel good about your visit. Share your experience with your family members, friends and update them with facts and fun stuff, via phone, a letter or an email. Be aware that social media is not necessarily the place to post publicly all about your loved ones. Consider creating a private or secret Facebook-Group-Page that is only for family members and close friends, so it is safer to share any updates.
As you know, you can ask me anything. When the caregiving journey gets too overwhelming and you keep having thoughts about “my life and my health sucks…” or “I am not sure if I’m doing it right…” , then connect with Saskia and book yourself a One-Off Emergency Care coaching session. You’ll be so glad you did!
The other day I was reading comments on an article about self-care-tips for caregivers and the tone of the comments struck me. Believe it or not, they mostly sounded like this:
• “I know about self-care, but it just doesn’t work for me”
• “Self-care for me is when you send me someone who can take over my caregiving for the next hour… please!”
• “Self-care? Not for me! I have no time since I have to look after a loved one 24/7”
• “When I go for a walk around the block, it feels good for a few minutes and then it’s all about the caregiving again and the good feeling is gone”
• “My mom starts yelling at me every time I want to be by myself”
I felt sad reading this.
Are you a caregiver who is immersed in caring for your loved one and is it taking its toll on you? Does thinking about self-care stresses you out even more, or it makes you upset as you may believe you can’t have it?
STOP! And pause… are you ready to learn something different?
Here are some insights and tips that help you to start thinking differently about self-care.
Self-care is not just about going to see a movie or having a massage.
The “real deal” about self-care is caring for yourself from the inside out, for instance:
Self-discovery and personal growth are important keys for a happier life, on your terms.
To become stronger, improve confidence and make better decisions. After all, you came on this planet to fulfill your calling.
Taking care of aging parents may be a part of your life, however it doesn’t mean that it has to take over your own life completely.
You have a choice… and it takes courage to be your own advocate.
Carrie Jolie Dale wrote the book: “The 2 choices”.
It’s an easy read with a powerful message. In one of the chapters I came across “The 2 choices mantra”.
After I read it, I jotted it on an index card and I have it visible on my desk. I have the permission to share it with you:
Right now, I have 2 choices:
One will get me more in alignment
with things I desire and the other
will move me away from it.
This ability to choose is a gift and
my source of passion, connection and power.
Ultimately it means: when you make a powerful decision you create powerful results. If you make a weak decision (and you know this in your heart) you will get a weak result.
This wonderful quote comes from Carrie Jolie Dale’s book and I resonate with it:
“Choose the things that just feel better”
Choose to keep an eye on yourself and when feelings of overwhelm, exhaustion or resentment creep up,
ask yourself: what 2 choices do I have?
Take a few minutes for yourself to look at your options and then choose powerfully.
When you take care of yourself, become truly honest and confident with yourself, caring for others will be easier.
And it will be more fun to choose deliberately for the movie or massage. You deserve it!